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I think really it comes down to women are monogamous by nature. We can’t fathom how a man can want/love more than one at a time. So, a man going from one woman to a new upgrade makes sense, not loving them at the same time. It’s taken a great deal of mental rebuilding on my part to realize that my husband deeply loves me and could still love me after bringing in another woman to his family.
I sort of understand this because both my wives tell me they are 100% monogamous. That reflects how we should regard our relationship with God - we are to love Him and Him alone, yet He has set His love on many. Experiencing polygyny has given me a far greater understanding of each of our relationships with God. Shalom
 
I think really it comes down to women are monogamous by nature. We can’t fathom how a man can want/love more than one at a time. So, a man going from one woman to a new upgrade makes sense, not loving them at the same time. It’s taken a great deal of mental rebuilding on my part to realize that my husband deeply loves me and could still love me after bringing in another woman to his family.

Well said. Women naturally tend to be monogamous and hypergamous (wanting the best male they can get). They can see divorcing a low quality husband in order to upgrade but they cannot submit to two men at the same time.

Also monogamy is good, and is required by God for WOMEN, much like God requires monotheism of all of us. Women make a mistake by thinking men operate the same way they do, and are governed by the moral law in exactly the same way they are.

I don't think men considering polygamy typically look at it as a way to upgrade women. Instead they think of it more like the way a parent having two or three (or many more) children love each additional child like they did with their first.

No one says you want to upgrade your firstborn child with a better one.
 
I sort of understand this because both my wives tell me they are 100% monogamous. That reflects how we should regard our relationship with God - we are to love Him and Him alone, yet He has set His love on many. Experiencing polygyny has given me a far greater understanding of each of our relationships with God. Shalom
I think this has to do with the covenantal nature of marriage. Covenants always have a covenant head who protects, and provides, for the covenant partner who submits.and follows. The covenant head is singular, but the covenant head can enter into multiple covenantal relationships at the same time.
 
Yes, it's four of us! Me, Macy, Cydne, and Amy. And no grandchildren in the house but Steve does have grandkids with his two oldest daughters from his first marriage.


I checked out MeganC's blog as recommend by FollowingHim2. It is very interesting to hear about how your family functions MeganC. Thank you for sharing. May the Lord bless your husband, yourself, your sister wives, and all the children.
 
Progressive white women are crazy because the left makes them that way
By Andrea Widburg

The American Thinker
April 15, 2021

One of the things I couldn't help but notice during the BLM protests last year was the fact that deeply distraught, hysterically angry white women seemed to be taking the lead in many of the protests. It turns out that I may have been on to something. A women's publication called Evie has caught up with the fact that a study from last year found that over half of white, Democrat women have been diagnosed at one time or another with a mental health problem. I'm not at all surprised.

To quote myself, in July, after sharing several videos of crazed white women during the height of the BLM marches, I wrote:

The root problem is that these women are receiving mixed messages that would make even the strongest person go crazy. Beginning in high school, or even earlier, they're told endlessly that they're both victim and oppressor.
These mixed messages make straight white girls distinct from other students. White boys are told they're evil, toxic oppressors of both women and minorities. It's an ugly message, but a consistent one. Boys lucky enough to have countervailing influences shake it off and become the men they should be. The boys who don't have better influences, interestingly enough, become feminized, even if they're not gay, as if trying to escape that awful toxic masculinity.
Meanwhile, everyone who is non-white and/or non-straight, whether male or female, or something else, is told that he, she, or it is a victim. White privilege, racism, homophobia, transgenderism, misogyny — all of them define how non-white and/or non-straight people suffer endlessly at the hands of straight whites.
And then there are the straight, white girls. On the one hand, they're...well, white and straight. That means they are evil oppressors who have benefited unfairly from white privilege. In the morality play that is leftism, they owe the world big-time. On the other hand, they're women, which means men have victimized them from time immemorial to the present.


It's not just the BLM phenomenon that highlighted crazy women in the past year. COVID revealed numerous white women who were incapable of staying silent if people didn't wear masks. These white women were the ones who acted as the voluntary civilian brigade to enforce every jot and tittle of the new fascists' lock-up and mask dictums. They enjoyed their power and were obnoxious all over America.

It turns out that I was on to something. The article in Evie notes that a Pew Research study has found that more than 50% of white women who identify as politically "liberal" (or, as I more accurately say, "leftist") have some form of mental health problem. What makes the article interesting is that, after noting real hormonal issues (periods, post-partum depression) and women's propensity for depression, it got to the nitty-gritty, which is that leftist women's mental health issues transcend merely biology:

The study, which examined white liberals, moderates, and conservatives, both male and female, found that conservatives were far less likely to be diagnosed with mental health issues than those who identified as either liberal or even "very liberal." What's more, white women suffered the worst of all. White women, ages 18-29, who identified as liberal were given a mental health diagnosis from medical professionals at a rate of 56.3%, as compared to 28.4% in moderates and 27.3% in conservatives.


And then, showing that Evie is not your ordinary hard-left women's magazine, the article points its finger at Progressivism itself:

But at the heart of the matter is this: Progressivism is an ideology that supposedly demands equality for all, and one that keeps score to an exhausting degree. The privilege between social classes, between races, between men and women, between religious and non-religious, and more, all have to be constantly monitored, and "inequality" has to be exposed for the purposes of "accountability." That kind of behavior isn't just unrealistic, it's unsustainable. In all honesty, it's understandable that anxiety and depression thrive in these kinds of environments when we're focusing on every minute, problematic issue in our world and not able to take comprehensive, productive action to solve all these problems.


I'll throw in one more factor, which is leftist white women's college attendance. Colleges today are disproportionately female, making normal male-female relationships unusual. In addition, as I noticed when I took my daughter to college a few years ago, the colleges seem deliberately structured to make young women crazy. Certainly, many of the cheerful, normal young women I met her freshman year were angry, neurotic harridans by senior year.

If you can't keep your daughter from attending college, at least try to get her to join Turning Point or some other campus conservative group. Her life will be much happier.
 
Sleep training and temper tantrums
By Toby Ranley
The American Thinker

April 15, 2021


Every parent learns the hard way that babies and children cannot rule the house. There are some cultures where things are done differently, but here in the USA, we parents quickly learn, whether we like it or not, that we have to be the adult and keep control. I was reminded of this recently when my next-door neighbors asked if their baby was keeping us up, as they were working on sleep training.

Babies can, and most do, get into the habit of awakening way too many times in the night, and they must learn the art of self-soothing to get back to sleep, lest the parents come to resemble the walking dead. It's tough, really tough, to listen to your baby cry. They can be stubborn; most are, extremely.

At a certain point, parents simply must put in earplugs, and turn over and try to get back to sleep themselves, judging that the time has come for their loved and cherished child to sleep at least three hours between feedings and diaper-changing. They may not be able to sleep — after all, their baby is suffering, and they have the means to end that suffering. They wish to comfort that poor little wailing being they love so much. They also worry that they're misjudging, that something is in fact wrong.

I remember many sleepless nights, sometimes giving in to the need just to take a peek, to make sure there wasn't a diaper explosion or something else wrong. Now we have video baby monitors to make it a bit easier, but the same principles apply. The one thing all parents know is that even when a baby cries for an hour straight, they can't give in to it.

By the same token, it's inevitable that toddlers test their boundaries and throw a temper tantrum or six. Sometimes, in a public place and always at the most inconvenient moment, these meltdowns can, but don't necessarily, correspond to hunger, a need for a nap, or any other real discomfort. They can just be a part of the growth process, the development of the ego, of self-control, of awareness of self versus others. Tantrums are a means to test a child's power and will.

Most parents simply recognize what is happening and deal with it depending on circumstances. At home, they can be ignored. Eventually, children will realize they are not getting whatever they are raging about and not accomplishing anything by their bad behavior. They then learn to find better means to get the goods.

It's always a mistake to dangle a bright thing in an attempt at re-direction, because, as parents will learn, that bright object becomes a reward for bad behavior and will tend to encourage rather than discourage it in the future.

When children don't get these early lessons in self-control, they often grow up to be self-centered and have poor impulse control. They become bullies. They don't learn to solve problems. They become narcissists.

Without demeaning the rioters and looters by saying they are literally infants or toddlers, it's still possible to view the rioting in Minneapolis as a series of temper tantrums that "bad parents" (i.e., the Democrats) are encouraging and normalizing for their own ends. I see the looters and rioters as children being given free rein to give in to poor impulse control, even being encouraged in their outrageous behavior. I don't see the people who ought to be discouraging the behavior, doing so; rather, I see them encouraging it.

There is no logic to this behavior. If one wished to protest blacks being killed, one might go to Chicago, where hundreds have been killed — but then the focus, rather than being on police officers' perceived behavior, would be on the actual bad behavior of the rioters' black peers. More whites are killed by cops than blacks. More blacks kill one another by a huge factor. Blacks kill more cops than anyone else, too.

Blacks do this not because they are incapable of other behavior. They do it because the political class actively encourages them to engage in violence. Their violence allows politicians to demand gun control, defunding the police, reparations, and a whole lot of other ideas that are bad for individual liberty regardless of the individual's skin color.

So where are the black leaders, telling their people to stop the temper tantrums and learn some adult behavior? If we are to take seriously the idea that black lives matter, shouldn't the black population of this country learn to be good citizens?

When you witness blacks carrying all the cases of hard liquor out of a store or senselessly destroying the property of another black business, you are witnessing a self-destructive cultural temper tantrum that more powerful people with an agenda are encouraging. The people rioting gain nothing from their acts; the benefit all flows to the people manipulating them. One would hope someone would take the parental role, call the rioters out on their behavior, and stop the madness.





























[Those familiar with my current family situation will recognize that the first part of the above article is playing out right now in my home.]
 
AN ATHEIST IN THE WOODS

An atheist was walking through the woods.

"What majestic trees!"

"What powerful rivers !"

"What beautiful animals!"

He said to himself.

Suddenly, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him. He turned to look . . . and saw a 7-foot grizzly bear charge towards him.

He ran as fast as he could along the path.

He looked over his shoulder & saw that the bear was closing on him ....He looked over his shoulder again,

and the bear was even closer ....and then ..... he tripped and fell.

Rolling over to pick himself up, he found the bear was right on top of him ....reaching towards him with its left paw ...and raising the right paw to strike ...

At that instant the Atheist cried out,

"Oh my God!"

Time Stopped ...

The bear froze .....

The forest was silent ....

A bright light shone upon the man, and a voice came out of the sky ...

"You deny my existence for all these years, you teach others I don't exist and even credit creation to cosmic accident ....Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament?"

"Am I to count you as a believer?"

The atheist looked directly into the light ...."It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask you to treat me as a Christian now ...but perhaps you could make the BEAR a Christian?"

... a pause ...

"Very well," said the voice ...

The light went out.

The sounds of the forest resumed ...

And the bear dropped his right arm ....

brought both paws together ....

bowed his head & spoke ...

"Lord, bless this food, which I am about to receive"
 
Who looks like him?
 
Just when any of us is about to conclude that we're headed into the darkest period of history, perhaps even entering End Times, give a read to this account from the late 10th Century:

“Mount Vesuvius (which is also called Vulcan’s Caldron) gaped far more often than his wont and belched forth a multitude of vast stones mingled with sulphurous flames which fell even to a distance of three miles around. […] It befell meanwhile that almost all the cities of Italy and Gaul were ravaged by flames of fire, and that the greater part even of the city of Rome was devoured by a conflagration. […] At this same time a horrible plague raged among men, namely a hidden fire which, upon whatsoever limb it toned, consumed it and severed it from the body. […] Moreover, about the same time[997], a most mighty famine raged for five years throughout the Roman world [in universo Romano orbe], so that no region could be heard of which was not hunger stricken for lack of bread, and many of the people were starved to death. In those days also, in many regions, the terrible famine compelled men to make their food not only of unclean beasts and creeping things, but even of men’s, women’s, and children’s flesh, without regard even of kindred; for so fierce waxed this hunger that grown-up sons devoured their mothers, and mothers, forgetting their maternal love ate their babes.”

Raoul Glaber, Histoires, ed. and trans. Mathieu Arnoux, Brépols, 1996, book II, § 13-17, pp. 116-125.
 
This is a glimpse of what kind of life to expect under the "new normal" of the sociopaths.

Kids harrassed for riding bikes without permits? In the land of the slave and home of the knave.

https://benwilliamslibrary.com/blog/?p=9138
 
A joke/observation I heard on our trip:

An American, a Mexican, and an Arab find a bottle with a genie in it and they let it out.

The genie offers each of them a wish in thanks for his freedom.

The American says, "I'd love to have ten million dollars!"

The Mexican says, "I'd like a nice hacienda in Acapulco !"

The Arab says, "My neighbor has a goat. I want it dead!"
 
A joke/observation I heard on our trip:

An American, a Mexican, and an Arab find a bottle with a genie in it and they let it out.

The genie offers each of them a wish in thanks for his freedom.

The American says, "I'd love to have ten million dollars!"

The Mexican says, "I'd like a nice hacienda in Acapulco !"

The Arab says, "My neighbor has a goat. I want it dead!"
I don’t get it
 
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