"A Man With More Than One Wife Must Treat Each Woman Fairly"
Triple like. Well done article on that.
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"A Man With More Than One Wife Must Treat Each Woman Fairly"
Triple like. Well done article on that.
Another worthwhile read.
The comment; Fair does not necessarily mean the same, has been my conviction from the beginning.
Yea, I recall Andrew mentioning a man who tried to scrupulously treat each wife the same, and it did not work out well for him.
Dwell with each wife in an understanding way and love her, might be a better slogan.
It's a simple position to take; let people decide what they want, monogamy or polygamy. Why is that so difficult!
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https://stories.showmax.com/uthando-nesthembus-makhumalo-polygamy-chose-me/
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Uthando Nes’thembu’s MaKhumalo: “Polygamy chose me”
Ever secretly wondered whether you’d thrive in a polygamous marriage? Stream the reality series Uthando Nes’thembu on Showmax for insider insight on how these relationships work in real life.
The Mseleku family changed the way some South Africans view polygamy. When the family, based in KwaZulu-Natal, made their debut on the Mzansi Magic reality show Uthando Nes’thembu, some people quickly shared that they wouldn’t mind being in a polygamous marriage after seeing how well the husband, Musa, treats his four wives. They all have houses and cars, and all their financial needs are met. The family also often goes on vacations together and they celebrate each other’s milestones.
While it might seem like it’s easy, Thobile, affectionately known as MaKhumalo, has revealed that this was never part of her plan. Speaking to BBC Africa, the third wife explained that she didn’t choose polygamy. “Polygamy chose me. I did not choose to be with my husband, but my husband came to me.”
MaKhumalo, who is very popular on social media, added: “I never thought of it. I would never wish for it. But it happened that the man I fell in love with was a polygamous man. I fell in love with his character, I fell in love with the way he does things, I fell in love with the way he loves his wives, I fell in love with his honesty,” she shared.
https://twitter.com/Kamogelo_MN/status/880489691044352001
Although she’s sharing her husband with three other women, she made it clear that the wives have a good relationship. “We have developed a system that is working for us.”
While the marriage is working for MaKhumalo, she revealed that she wouldn’t encourage anyone who’s not yet married to marry into polygamy. “I’m not about that. I understand very well that marriage is a choice, so I chose to be in it,” she told BBC Africa.
It’s so refreshing to see how honest and open MaKhumalo is about her journey – the good and the bad. Remember when she brought viewers to tears after revealing that she is unable have children? It was also heartwarming to see how her husband stood up for her after the news came out.
In an interview with TshisaLive, Musa said: “I love MaKhumalo and she is a great mother to all my children, even though she did not give birth to any of them. She is strong and a strong believer in God as well, and we know her story touched many.”
If you’re curious about how the Mselekus make this marriage work, then you have to watch the first and second season of Uthando Nes’thembu on Showmax. Who knows – the show might just change your views on polygamy.
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Uthando Nes’thembu’s MaKhumalo: “Polygamy chose me”
Ever secretly wondered whether you’d thrive in a polygamous marriage? Stream the reality series Uthando Nes’thembu on Showmax for insider insight on how these relationships work in real life.
The Mseleku family changed the way some South Africans view polygamy. When the family, based in KwaZulu-Natal, made their debut on the Mzansi Magic reality show Uthando Nes’thembu, some people quickly shared that they wouldn’t mind being in a polygamous marriage after seeing how well the husband, Musa, treats his four wives. They all have houses and cars, and all their financial needs are met. The family also often goes on vacations together and they celebrate each other’s milestones.
While it might seem like it’s easy, Thobile, affectionately known as MaKhumalo, has revealed that this was never part of her plan. Speaking to BBC Africa, the third wife explained that she didn’t choose polygamy. “Polygamy chose me. I did not choose to be with my husband, but my husband came to me.”
MaKhumalo, who is very popular on social media, added: “I never thought of it. I would never wish for it. But it happened that the man I fell in love with was a polygamous man. I fell in love with his character, I fell in love with the way he does things, I fell in love with the way he loves his wives, I fell in love with his honesty,” she shared.
https://twitter.com/Kamogelo_MN/status/880489691044352001
Although she’s sharing her husband with three other women, she made it clear that the wives have a good relationship. “We have developed a system that is working for us.”
While the marriage is working for MaKhumalo, she revealed that she wouldn’t encourage anyone who’s not yet married to marry into polygamy. “I’m not about that. I understand very well that marriage is a choice, so I chose to be in it,” she told BBC Africa.
It’s so refreshing to see how honest and open MaKhumalo is about her journey – the good and the bad. Remember when she brought viewers to tears after revealing that she is unable have children? It was also heartwarming to see how her husband stood up for her after the news came out.
In an interview with TshisaLive, Musa said: “I love MaKhumalo and she is a great mother to all my children, even though she did not give birth to any of them. She is strong and a strong believer in God as well, and we know her story touched many.”
If you’re curious about how the Mselekus make this marriage work, then you have to watch the first and second season of Uthando Nes’thembu on Showmax. Who knows – the show might just change your views on polygamy.
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Over all, I'm inclined to view this one as a story of how not to do polygyny.
I wish the man would become a Christian and learn to love his wives as Christ loved the church/assembly.
I feel sorry for his ladies.
Hilarious
https://digital.bentley.umich.edu/midaily/mdp.39015071756246/402
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The interesting point this article presents is the simple practicality for having multiple wives. And it resolves a serious problem.
It was learning about the plight of not just German, but European women, both Jew and Gentile after WWII that served to help me strengthen my belief in PM after my breakthrough in January of 2005. Many German men who were POWs here in Alabama came to love America so much that they became citizens, and never returned to the homeland. They married American women and finished out their lives here. Conversely, German women were absolutely desperate to marry American soldiers, and would do anything to get here. I have one such friend. Great sadness for the spinsters...
Yep, I've always said that my motivation for having additional wives was simply to further wet my whistle.
In a situation like that, I suspect enforced monogamy-only simply wouldn't work and basic survival would be under threat. It makes me wonder how many enforced monogamy-only situations there have been in history where survival was made difficult or impossible due to a restriction on enough able-bodied people being around to ensure survival. Even in our own society, and even with so many conveniences to help get work done, many women live on anti-depressants and coffee to keep going under a load they can't keep up with. Some don't handle the load they have to carry and end up bolting for some wrong-headed exit door, i.e. family abandonment - drugs - alcohol - divorce - suicide - etc. Sure, such may not be all women in our society, but many do suffer. And we've all heard or know real stories where an extra pair of hands would have been so very helpful.