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Churchianity Lacks PRACTICAL Answers For Single Women!

Daniel DeLuca said:
I don't know how you can see this as an UNconscious decision:
over 45 per cent of women and 42 per cent of men in our study said they would consider dating a non-Christian​
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You make my point.
It’s not that they have decided consciously to do it, it’s just that they haven’t decided on any firm guidelines and might do it if they found someone that would attract them. All while telling themselves that they would be able to convert the non-believer.

We totally agree with each other that they don’t have standards, which is the real problem.
 
steve said:
You make my point.
It’s not that they have decided consciously to do it, it’s just that they haven’t decided on any firm guidelines and might do it if they found someone that would attract them. All while telling themselves that they would be able to convert the non-believer.

We totally agree with each other that they don’t have standards, which is the real problem.
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My son had a long distance relationship that was sorta like that. It has kinda ended, but he dealt with a lot of heartache with her. I can remember a college co-ed I had that whatever it was we had between us, ended when she ran off and married someone else, and how I felt about that whole ordeal. I had gotten frustrated with not being able to get any young ladies from the church, to go out with me. They all seemed to have a boyfriend at the very moment that I would ask them out, even though I never saw them with any guy. Either they were lying, and just making up an excuse to not go out with someone who they didn't see as boyfriend material, or their boyfriends were not members of the church. I was home-schooled, so I had a distinct disadvantage when it came to having an opportunity to get to know them or ask them out. It got tiring, working up the nerve to ask them out, only to get shot down time and time again.
 
It's more they think there aren't any men available in the church and so feel justified in dating non-Christians. How else could they find a man? Feels > obedience.

Of course their are men available, they just don't feel attracted to them.

The church will never have practical answers for women because the church is completely unwilling to tell women what they don't want to hear. Which is the only kind of advice/command that will help.

Daniel DeLuca said:
Either they were lying, and just making up an excuse to not go out with someone who they didn't see as boyfriend material
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This. Women don't like being put in the receiving end of this spot any more than you do on your end. Boyfriend is pretty much the default polite excuse. Were you attractive to them, the boyfriend wouldn't have mattered if he did exist. Being public schooled wouldn't have made you any more attractive.
 
rockfox said:
This. Women don't like being put in the receiving end of this spot any more than you do on your end. Boyfriend is pretty much the default polite excuse. Were you attractive to them, the boyfriend wouldn't have mattered if he did exist. Being public schooled wouldn't have made you any more attractive.
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I always figured that was the case. Being home-schooled, meant that I had fewer opportunities than I would have had, to become acquaintances with a girl, and get a better idea which ones were interested in me.
 
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I was always inept until the right one came to town. Then it just happened.
#itonlytookone
 
steve said:
I was always inept until the right one came to town. Then it just happened.
#itonlytookone
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It only takes one to escape celibacy! It takes a second one to escape monotony, er umm, monogamy.
 
I am uncomfortable with the flippant use of the term monotony. It is unnecessarily degrading to 99% of marriages.
Besides which, it’s all your wife will ever have.
 
steve said:
I am uncomfortable with the flippant use of the term monotony. It is unnecessarily degrading to 99% of marriages.
Besides which, it’s all your wife will ever have.
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Yeah well! What can I say? I'm just thankful that God used the circumstances that I went through, in order to bring me to where I am today.
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
Yeah well! What can I say? I'm just thankful that God used the circumstances that I went through, in order to bring me to where I am today.
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Color me slow, but I don’t get your meaning.
 
Well, I thought "monotony" was a funny joke there, obviously agree with everyone that it's completely untrue, but to be honest that's what makes it funny. No need to get down on @Daniel DeLuca for saying it, it will just discourage people from typing quickly in future and make them worried they might say something wrong.
 
Has your wife ever expressed frustration that you didn't make it to work as soon as she would have liked for you to make it, because you had to fight traffic, and she knows that this will mean that you have to work longer?
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
I'm just trying to point out that in some circumstances, having a second help-mate, may in fact actually help.
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Sorry Daniel. It wasn’t really pointed at you. More like a good jumping off point for something that hit me funny. I’d have seen this sooner but I’ve had a busy day and was putting out a fire on another site.
 
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