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Churchianity Lacks PRACTICAL Answers For Single Women!

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men who’ve told me, in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married. When I ask them why, the answer is always the same.

Women aren’t women anymore.

To say gender relations have changed dramatically is an understatement. Ever since the sexual revolution, there has been a profound overhaul in the way men and women interact. Men haven’t changed much – they had no revolution that demanded it – but women have changed dramatically.

In a nutshell, women are angry. They’re also defensive, though often unknowingly. That’s because they’ve been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.
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If you as a woman aren't counter cultural, you're harming your chances with men who would be a good Christian husband. Because he will want a traditional, feminine wife. The church isn't telling women this, they're too busy going rah rah girl power.

So if men today are slackers, and if they’re retreating from marriage en masse, women should look in the mirror and ask themselves what role they’ve played to bring about this transformation.

Fortunately, there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender to theirs.

If they do, marriageable men will come out of the woodwork.
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But don't expect that to work if you do it when you're 34 and desperate. Every other woman does that and men aren't buying it. Be traditional now. Get married as a teen/early 20. It's hard to claim to be traditional if you don't get married when women traditionally married. Men know that women who wait until late 20's early 30's to get serious about settling down and claim to be traditional are really feminists under a thin veneer of tradition.

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Man! That rebel is a feast for the eyes! ;)
 
All the solutions are like trying to heal a severed limb by placing a band-aid on it, all the while, the reattachment instruments are stuffed away in a closet.
 
Gary Slaughenhaupt said:
“I have liberated myself and my people from the fantastic myth . . . called a conscience,” boasted Hitler.
One can see the fruits of this most convenient dogma wherever one goes in Germany today. People without a conscience !

This gave me chills. It is what we see ever more pervasive today.
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I read that too. It is such a mess when people cut themselves loose of their moral compass.
 
FollowingHim said:
@Man@Home: He is quoting the article itself, not making his own statement. Read the original article.
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I read the article too, and also the quote of Hitler. But I apparently read over the next sentence and missed that. That’s why I was wondering how he came to that conclusion.

Sorry for that @Gary Slaughenhaupt. I thought it was your own opinion after reading the article.
 
Frank S said:
Some ladies responding to advice that is of no help to singleness. Sad much!

Taken from :
https://gospelrelevance.com/2016/08/14/5-lies-single-christian-believes/

Kip
March 14, 2017 at 9:54 pm
Easy to say for someone who’s married. It seems like once people get married or get engaged, they feel completely entitled to give flippant advice on “lies” we believe. Sounds like I don’t love God enough because I don’t fully desire Him. I’m sorry, are we not humans? Is it so terrible to desire a relationship without other christians worrying about us veering off into idolatry? This is why I’m so distant from my fellow Christians. All so tone deaf. All so ready to piously give advice after they’ve received what they’ve wanted all of their lives…

Pastors and friends do this all of the time. It’s so easy for married people or coupled folks to be far removed from the ache of loneliness once they’ve found someone. Their words seem pompous. Their advice shallow of humanity because well, theyre in love. So, they simply tell their single friends to “abandon themselves” in Jesus or serve a little more.

My friends all have families and boyfriends. You try having conversations with them but the baby needs feeding or the boyfriend gets all their attention.

I wish Christians (I’m christian) can offer more in advice than “love God more” or “abandon yourself to Him” or, worse yet, insinuating that your mere desire or hope for love is in any way a sin. Or, that you’re not seeking Him enough. I got that same crap when I was hospitalized 3 years ago. It’s just all fluff! Why can’t christians talk straight, plain English with compassion? Why all the christianese about idolatry and not being Christian enough to be in love. It’s so easy for married people to forget the ache of loneliness and you’re no different.

I’m sorry. I’m just so tired of it all. The blanket advice my christians friends seem to so easily delve out. The waiting. The hoping. Being the 3rd wheel. The feeling inferior to other christians because I don’t want God enough. The feeling of condemnation. The lonely days and nights of pretending everything is fine. The embarrassment of falling apart in front of everyone because a potential relationship didn’t pan out. The being told that it’s just a matter of waiting. I’m reluctant to approach God in spending time with Him. It bores me I guess because it feels empty, so I avoid it. But my life is empty in geberal. Everyday is the same to me. There’s nothing new. Nobody to talk to. Everyone’s so busy. I am fault for that, though. When I was depressed, I alienated all of my friends. I talk to my friends but not about my true feelings of boredom and sadness and loneliness. They’ll only tell me that it’ll happen one day and all is well. Or, that being in a relationship isn’t all isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. All lies.

I’m not saying a relationship will complete me. I’m not saying a man will make it all better. I just wish I had a companion. Someone to talk and grow with. I feel slighted. I’d share with you what happened in my life 2 years ago but I fear that, just like every other Christian, you’ll shred that story to pieces because God talking to us is “impossible” or sometimes things are just coincidences but God is “bigger than our pain”. I’m at a stale point in life. I no longer know where to turn.

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Rachel Nichols
October 7, 2017 at 7:18 am
How about “there’s someone for everyone?” Or “God is always on time.” Maybe He’s not on time because the answer to decades of prayers and tearful waiting is a resounding “No!” And there will be no happy ending for you this side of eternity.

Christian marrieds love to deny this. Trying to cheer us up with sappy anecdotes about your great aunt Haggatha who married for the first time at 99. (Uh, why? Seriously.)

Seriously, there are more than twice as many Christian spinsters as bachelors. Should we A. Embrace polygamy? B. Turn lesbian? or C. Marry atheists/maybe leave Christ altogether?

Most single women my age are choosing C. I prefer to remain faithful to God even if my life stinks and will never improve till I go to Heaven. “Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him.” As Job said. Unfortunately my Christian friends surround me with platitudes, condemnation (You weren’t more proactive in chasing men in college!) and judgment as they call my grief bitterness.Thanks for mocking me on my ash heap you sorry comforters.

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Churchianity lacks PRACTICAL answers for too many single women!

Sad much!
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I made the above post back on July 27 2019.
Within my post I pasted two quotes that at the time were among the replies on the site at the included link.
The moderators of that site have since removed those two quotes.
The fact they were removed proves how much single women who can't find a husband have their very real difficulties ignored within churchianity.
Removing those quotes was just an easy way to make such complaining women go away or to no longer have a voice to say such bothersome things.
Isn't it amazing how easy it is to make troublesome ladies just disappear? - ladies for whom "Christian" website moderators and church leaders have no practical answers!

I said it back when I originally posted, and with the quotes being since removed, I'm moved to say it again - sad much!
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
It goes against their narrative that if you do everything the way they say that you should do it, God will miraculously create a husband for you out of thin air.
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No joke. Moody Bible Institute does little radio dramas and every other one has someone coming to God and the fruit of that is them finding love. Like God is some great matchmaker in the sky who will make your Cinderella dreams come true if you just come to Him.

One wonders how the Pagans managed to marry and birth children.
 
Funny that they couldn't do that when they told their "Stories of Great Christians" and they did the one about Gladys Aylward.
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
It goes against their narrative that if you do everything the way they say that you should do it, God will miraculously create a husband for you out of thin air.
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I've had to think about this before replying to it.

From my place as someone who is already married I won't offer advice but I will say the mainstream churches or Churchianity fails both men and women because the mainstream churches have been taken over by secular forces and they've abandoned God, Jesus, and Scripture. The ideal man these heretical and apostate churches advocate is a feminine and submissive person who could NEVER be a real Head of the House.

I know this is probably a little biased of me but I see these eunuchs going back and forth to Yellowstone all the time. The woman is driving and the man has his hair in a man bun and they're vegetarians. Romans 14:2 speaks to vegetarians. They usually drive a Subaru or some sort of SUV that you usually see getting towed. The men are emasculated and they think that being submissive to their girlfriend is the way to live.

It's funny in a sad way that liberal lesbians are usually better examples of men than most modern men. :(

So who does a feminine woman/girl marry when there are no actual men to be found? (Hello!! That was me!!!)

What do you do when Churchianity discourages boys from being men?

What do you do when Churchianity openly embraces anti-feminine beliefs like abortion, birth control, secularism, and girls are told that real men are toxic?

You end up with confused people like myself who finally met a real man and was almost overwhelmed with a reality that was 100% the opposite of what I had been taught all my life to demand from a feminized man.

Having been in a masculine church for eleven years Scripture makes much more sense to me because you don't have to explain away so much of it to fit the modern liberal narrative. It's easier to be a Christian when you're married to a man who exemplifies God's love for his children.

These Churchianity people pride themselves on their modern values and you rarely hear them speak strongly of their faith. Instead they preach a weird gospel of socialism, political correctness, and toxic feminism.

I know I said I wasn't going to offer advice to single people but I will and I will keep it simple:

If you're a boy then decide right now to be a MAN in every sense of the word. Be the man a woman will feel safe to be with. Be the head of your house!

If you're a girl then desire to be a woman and insist on having a MAN in your life instead of someone who would never play the part of John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Clark Gable, or Tom Selleck in a movie!

/rant ;)
 
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That is one of those posts for which I'm sure many of us would love to have a double- or triple-like button!
 
MeganC said:
So who does a feminine woman/girl marry when there are no actual men to be found? (Hello!! That was me!!!)
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Loved your post!!

That was sort of me. I had no brothers so I was like a capable country girl in the city... and city males did NOT impress. Thankfully my prayer was answered and a capable country guy moved in next door.
 
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