Shaka, when the walls fell.
As it was not a topic of extreme interest I was speed scanning through the last few posts and then my brain said wait what? Scan back up...lol!
Nerd confirmed
Shaka, when the walls fell.
I am probably more aware of that than you are. And one of the great things about this ministry is that we get to speak to such men and actually help them to become better men, which then benefits every woman who comes into contact with them. This ministry exists to help both men and women become better husbands and wives, to achieve lasting and happy marriages.
Why are you on this Forum @Maia? You said you wanted to learn about "these topics" which I am assuming is Biblical Marriage which may include plural wives. I think you might have been surprised that most people on this Forum also believe in Patriarchy as a foundation for marriage. If you don't want to have a marriage like that then there are many other Forums and websites that will support your views on partnership marriage. We are just NOT one of them. So again, why are you here? You said you were 17 years old on the Ladies Chat last Tuesday, I am finding it very hard to believe that that is a true statement from your postings. So, why are you here? You don't seem to be in a very learning mood, you are more in the mood to share your opinion and then criticize other's opinions. Just to let you know, that if you truly are a woman, most men here would not consider your attitude very attractive. I am sure you could find many other "Christian" sites where it would be, but not here. Again, why are you here?
Yes, we are - because you've made more than two posts. Whenever people turn up, whatever their views, our response is "Welcome, good to meet you". We don't debate people the moment they post an introduction. When (and if) they start actually participating in discussions on theology, that's a different matter.There is a guy here who made the choice to throw out the entire New Testament, I presume because it did not fit with his world view. I feel like you are holding me to a different standard.
@Maia, you've made your approximate age very clear through many of your posts in the way you've discussed your family. You've shared a vast amount of information about yourself. You have even said on your profile that you are "13-25", and everything you've said has been entirely consistent with that. Putting a precise number on it is nothing new whatsoever to any of us, which is why @julieb did not see that as revealing anything confidential. If you'd actually shared anything truly confidential, she would not have shared that publicly.I appreciate your candor, what I appreciate less is that information which was shared in a semi private conversation is just publicized. Although I also made a mistake with the profile picture, where people likely deduced my approx. age. That mistake will be remedied, now.
For start, basic info about person aren't private. If third person ask your acquitance to describe you, what will acquitance say? Age/job/school will be mentioned.I appreciate your candor, what I appreciate less is that information which was shared in a semi private conversation is just publicized. Although I also made a mistake with the profile picture, where people likely deduced my approx. age. That mistake will be remedied, now.
No, I was not surprised that many here believe Patriarchy to be the foundation of a marriage, and certain aspects I could see myself practicing as well. It is possible that I find a husband that fits perfectly to me who demands a higher level of submission from me, then a men who is less dominant but also less of a fit. But it will be my choice.
It's doubtful simply because men in West had very strong incentives to treat women well. In my opinion too well, since from time of Eleanor of Aquitaine Western culture has pushed idea that women can't sin in practical sense. Chivalry was and still is bad idea.I am glad I have the choice, woman 500 years ago did not, they were traded between fathers and husbands like cattle, and many woman im places like Afghanistan endure the same today.
For what? For her achievements? Or for being such helpmate for her husband?I appreciate your candor, what I appreciate less is that information which was shared in a semi private conversation is just publicized. Although I also made a mistake with the profile picture, where people likely deduced my approx. age. That mistake will be remedied, now.
As to your why question: I am looking for a marriage that is morally sound, and a christian basis will greatly increase the success that it is. With other websites it is more akin to something that resembles prostitution. If that is what someone is looking for, I will not judge them, but it is not for me. Granted, I should have perhaps have vetted some of the comments here.
No, I was not surprised that many here believe Patriarchy to be the foundation of a marriage, and certain aspects I could see myself practicing as well. It is possible that I find a husband that fits perfectly to me who demands a higher level of submission from me, then a men who is less dominant but also less of a fit. But it will be my choice. I am glad I have the choice, woman 500 years ago did not, they were traded between fathers and husbands like cattle, and many woman im places like Afghanistan endure the same today. I was surprised with the level of outright hostility that some display. although it is nothing I cannot deal with. I will respond if challenged. Even in a patriarchy I would assume woman can expect to not be treated like 2nd class citizens. One of the people I admire is Marie Curie, a brilliant scientist, it should not matter what the sex is. However, just
Says you. But our God is in heaven; He does whatever He pleases (Psalm 115:3).Regarding "The truth" and the Word of God. Well, ideally God would communicate directly to individuals.
One cannot rule out the possibility that you are not who you say you are. Your posts are particularly problematic, however I find no problem with Ephesians in the Bible.One cannot rule out the possibility that certain people committed the horrible crime of misinterpreting, or outright falsifying what God intended. Ephesians is especially problematic.
Says you. I am a man and I question many things, including doctrines espoused by strangers who show up on sites on the Web. CheersNow, as a man it is not in your interest to question certain doctrine.
I appreciate your response, and it should give us all a clearer understanding of the direction you are coming from when posting. You say you want a Christian marriage, but you failed to answer when asked if you are a Christian. I understand that that description comes with lots of variation on the theme, but if you desire to answer that question to some degree, that also helps us know what your mind set is about certain things.I appreciate your candor, what I appreciate less is that information which was shared in a semi private conversation is just publicized. Although I also made a mistake with the profile picture, where people likely deduced my approx. age. That mistake will be remedied, now.
As to your why question: I am looking for a marriage that is morally sound, and a christian basis will greatly increase the success that it is. With other websites it is more akin to something that resembles prostitution. If that is what someone is looking for, I will not judge them, but it is not for me. Granted, I should have perhaps have vetted some of the comments here.
No, I was not surprised that many here believe Patriarchy to be the foundation of a marriage, and certain aspects I could see myself practicing as well. It is possible that I find a husband that fits perfectly to me who demands a higher level of submission from me, then a men who is less dominant but also less of a fit. But it will be my choice. I am glad I have the choice, woman 500 years ago did not, they were traded between fathers and husbands like cattle, and many woman im places like Afghanistan endure the same today. I was surprised with the level of outright hostility that some display. although it is nothing I cannot deal with. I will respond if challenged. Even in a patriarchy I would assume woman can expect to not be treated like 2nd class citizens. One of the people I admire is Marie Curie, a brilliant scientist, it should not matter what the sex is. However, just because she had a vagina she needed to publicize some of her work under a male pseudonym. That cannot be accepted.
What I find hypocritical: the view here is that society has a whole is intolerant toward people where marriage is plural, and I would agree. However, tolerance is a two way street. If one shows no tolerance towards others, one can expect none. I think some men here have forgotten that.
Just to be clear, the majority of posters here I have no issue with, and people like FollowingHim are very balanced in their statements.
As to your statement that men might not find my attitude attractive. You would be correct, but in that case it would be vice versa, so it is irrelevant in the end.
I do not know of any Christian sites that would make women feel like a prostitute but I am sure there are some out there. I was mostly thinking of you finding a local church or facebook group that you could connect with that might have more similar values to you than here, but you say this is what you are looking for so I will believe you.As to your why question: I am looking for a marriage that is morally sound, and a christian basis will greatly increase the success that it is. With other websites it is more akin to something that resembles prostitution. If that is what someone is looking for, I will not judge them, but it is not for me.
He does, He definitely does. This is the advantage of have the Holy Spirit, we can all communicate directly with God, and He with us. I know very few Christians that claim to have never heard from God.Regarding "The truth" and the Word of God. Well, ideally God would communicate directly to individuals. Some people claim God does talk to them directly. Maybe he does, maybe he does not
This is not salvation, nor even Christianity. This is like saying that you have a good life and feel like a good person so you must be fine. That is not how it works. Salvation is individual, and you need to choose it. It involves repenting of your sins, and choosing to follow God in your life. It is not something you can inherit because your family are Christians, it is something that is deeply personal.My family and myself I feel are entirely blessed, so my interpretation is that God is cool with me.
@Maia, you've made your approximate age very clear through many of your posts in the way you've discussed your family. You've shared a vast amount of information about yourself. You have even said on your profile that you are "13-25", and everything you've said has been entirely consistent with that. Putting a precise number on it is nothing new whatsoever to any of us, which is why @julieb did not see that as revealing anything confidential. If you'd actually shared anything truly confidential, she would not have shared that publicly.
@Maia, you've made your approximate age very clear through many of your posts in the way you've discussed your family. You've shared a vast amount of information about yourself. You have even said on your profile that you are "13-25", and everything you've said has been entirely consistent with that. Putting a precise number on it is nothing new whatsoever to any of us, which is why @julieb did not see that as revealing anything confidential. If you'd actually shared anything truly confidential, she would not have shared that publicly.
Lastly, I do apologize if sharing your age was out of turn. Not sure why you wouldn't want to be up front about that, but I assume you have your reasons. Those of us who have been a part of this site for many years have seen too many scammers, and such, come through these pages. I truly hope you are not here for anything other than what you claim. You joining us on the Tuesday night Ladies Video chat would be a good start to assuring those ladies who would like to get to know you better, and in turn their husbands, that you are who you say you are. Of course, if that is not a step you want to take at this time, I understand.
Has nothing to do with government.Second, you are for practically all state pushed BS. This again implies you being very young. It's simple, school really pushes dependence and obedience on state (it's after all state institution, politicians certainly won't pay for textbooks which would describe them as assholes).
I'm 35 and I believe I'm in lower third in age distibution. Certainly in lower half. With 15/20 years of real life experience you will have in memory total BS told by policitians. And not just once, but multiple times. And when you start digging into real history, you will find out that about practically everything was lied.
And since forum isn't about something conventional, it doesn't attract 25+ still politically correct totally brainswashed people. There aren't here any people with any significant life experience who trust info provided by government. So you must not have any significant life experience which implies you being young.
(Shrugs) Well I will negotiate. I do not need to marry to get out of poverty or something so I guess that makes me a free agent.It's not a submission if you get to choose what you will obey. Marriage isn't supposed to be eternal negotiation what is acceptable.
My family was Catholic for generations, well as far back as we have it documented actually. In the past it was quite common that one daughter would become a nun, one son would study Theology etc. Most have now left the Catholic Church. At the moment we do not have a church per se, and that is fine. Religion can be a wonderful thing, and I know people where religion gave them the strength to not commit suicide, however when grouped together in an organised structure, it can corrupt. I would say I am trying to be a good person, more or less, which also means that unlike many peers of mine I have not had sex.I appreciate your response, and it should give us all a clearer understanding of the direction you are coming from when posting. You say you want a Christian marriage, but you failed to answer when asked if you are a Christian. I understand that that description comes with lots of variation on the theme, but if you desire to answer that question to some degree, that also helps us know what your mind set is about certain things.
I meant more like general sites to meet people. Local churches ehh perhaps, maybe, I dunno.I do not know of any Christian sites that would make women feel like a prostitute but I am sure there are some out there. I was mostly thinking of you finding a local church or facebook group that you could connect with that might have more similar values to you than here, but you say this is what you are looking for so I will believe you.
I have heard of the term, however I am not 100% sure if I am interpreting it as you are. I think Catholics might take a different definition. I would not say that I had a form of conversion per se. Like I said I have had moments of extreme clarity.In your posts you seem to have very little respect for God or those that follow Him, so I am asking you this question, because it is the most important thing to ask anyone.
Are you a born again Christian?
The same way most evangelical Christians do. Born again - a person who has called upon and trusted in Christ alone for their eternal salvation and can point to a time and place when they accepted that (conversion experience).I have heard of the term, however I am not 100% sure if I am interpreting it as you are
Proverbs 21:9 KJV It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.Men don't won't source of additional competition at home, but somebody who makes their life easier, sexier and joyful.
I have asked it this way, are you a true born-again Bible-believing Christian?Are you a born again Christian?
I appreciate your candor, what I appreciate less is that information which was shared in a semi private conversation is just publicized.
What you said was not harsh; please don't let them convince you of this or convince you that Julie had the right to blast your age in such a manner. It obviously wasn't done by mistake; there was intent behind the statement that followed it, and it was very, nasty and uncalled for.In retrospect that was a little to harsh.
@Maia, this is untrue, anyone who knows @julieb personally can confirm that she was not talking to you out of some hidden nasty intent. Let's just discuss the topic at hand rather than whether people are nasty or not. People have been asking you questions in order to understand where you're coming from, they asked repeatedly as you had not answered a question multiple people felt was important for obvious reasons ("are you a Christian"), and you have now answered this question (if anyone does not realise that it is answered, re-read her post #132 above carefully, it explains what her thinking is, and in far more useful detail than a simple yes or no would have done).What you said was not harsh; please don't let them convince you of this or convince you that Julie had the right to blast your age in such a manner. It obviously wasn't done by mistake; there was intent behind the statement that followed it, and it was very, nasty and uncalled for.
This is logically sound. Having a Christian basis to a marriage should give it a foundation that is both morally sound and more likely to achieve success.As to your why question: I am looking for a marriage that is morally sound, and a christian basis will greatly increase the success that it is.
Well one of the rules I will always have for my wives, is that they love one another. The other main rule is that they will not refuse the love that I have for them. My wife of 22 years certainly does not want a sister wife who disapproves of her.I do not think I have entirely crystallized my own understanding with regards to this.
I will say that if a man is interested in adding me as a 2nd but the 1st disapproves of me, then that would be an absolute no go for me.
If the situation is reversed; I suppose if the man made it clear as part of the marriage discussion/negotiations that he will make the decision and that I will have no say in that, and I agree to that, then I will be beholden to that. I would expect a loving husband ™ to read me, and if he knows that I consider the other girl to unacceptable then to at least take that into consideration. It is possible that in that case it might be better that I and the other are in different houses, even if I do not like that constellation in general.
I might compare it to parents and children. Parents do not ask their children if they are cools with more siblings, even though it affects the other children greatly.