It's only over if you are unwilling to take her back.
On my part, I just can’t have her back in the house because of the violence my kids were submitted to (because of her, but she’ll say it’s our fault). Social services came and said that if sw comes back, they will have to assess giving the children another home. Yeah, that much…
I still love her. Want her but it’s just plain impossible right now.
If she was ready to see a professional for her mental state and lack of control, that would change things, but she doesn’t want to. That was the breaking point 2 weeks ago after many many crisis.
But tonight, with her ex, she messaged me that she will come get her stuff out with him in the coming days… she was very authoritative. I put things straight.
I say to you, at this point, nothing I can say will be well received. She doubts my every intentions, and I KNOW it’s her mental state that induces that, but I just can’t do a thing.
When I said that I moved some of her stuff that was in some places back in her room, she said « i knew it you wanted me out ». It’s always like that, sending contradictory signals. It’s draining and honestly, I am sick of it.
When she say something, I believe her. She says I leave. I believe her.
When she departed last week, I asked the keys back because my children were afraid of her coming back anytime unannounced and because of the social services. She reproached it to me.
When I visited last week, she pummelled me emotively for 10 hours. When later I was outside talking to my fw about what I was going to do; return, sleep in the car… she arrived and cried that I do not talk to her, that I always prefers my fw, which is false. I always informed her too.
Please all, pray for her for me and my family.