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An uncomfortable but generally cogent analysis of marital disloyalty, even though Dr. David Buss these days seems to be overly swayed by the current dominant over-balance of (radical-feminism-ized) women attending the University of Texas Austin (and most institutions of 'higher' learning):


One major personality dynamic Dr. Buss tends to consistently skip right over is the difference between men and women when it comes to sexual jealousy -- again, most likely because his grad students who run the studies he supervises are now predominantly women -- but men's jealousy tends to center around the damage it can do to their legacies (combined with getting saddled with having to bear the presence and responsibility for raising other men's children), whereas women are far more likely than men to be jealous out of what can only be properly labeled as stinginess (unwillingness to share). This consequently blinds Buss to the degree to which women don't so much choose sex partners to cheat with during ovulatory fertility as a means to pass along better characteristics to their offspring but instead just because they want to combine getting raw sex from the alpha hunks while getting generally protected and provided for by the more dependable betas. DNA may be driving women to pass along the hunk's genes, but the women carrying that DNA just want the adventure and aren't thinking about effects on their future generations.
 
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Good to know. Google becoming useless.

Unfortunately in this case we can't just choose another alternative. To the best of my understanding, there are only really four fully-comprehensive search engines available - Google, Bing, Yandex and Baidu. Google and Bing are Western-biased, Yandex is Russian-biased, and Baidu is in Chinese and CCP controlled. Every other "alternative" search engine is just another way of accessing one or more of these engines (Yahoo and DuckDuckGo are both Bing for instance).

The entire internet experience these days centres around search engines - we have become completely dependent upon them to navigate the vast sea of data available, and there isn't really any obvious alternative to using them.

If both Google and Bing become unusable, this really does break the internet as it currently exists.
 
If both Google and Bing become unusable, this really does break the internet as it currently exists.
Actually, it's worse than that (and has been for a while, most people just don't know it):

When "AI Engines" manipulate the search, not only will they filter and twist the results, but even make stuff up. People won't be able to tell.

"...even the elect" might be deceived. (Matthew 24:24)
 
Ok. So here was my random comment for this week. I was driving the interstate and saw a trucker driving bob-tail (without a trailer). (It made me think of @steve ). It is terrifically difficult (for me) to back a 25 foot trailer . . . much less a 53 foot trailer. I can only imagine how pulling through downtown Chicago at 5 o'clock would be . . . or pulling in the snow . . . or trucking 60,000 lbs of live cattle. Driving just the semi without a trailer . . . . SOOOOO much easier.
It seemed to me a pretty good metaphor for manhood. It's a lot easier driving bobtail. If you're not pulling wives and a family . . . if you're not looking out for everyone else on the road as you are trying to make your way. It's a lot easier . . . but it's pointless. Just like a semi-tractor is BUILT for the load and without that load it's kind of pointless, so it is with men.

Also . . . Not to put single men out in the cold . . . one of my best friends never married, but he pulled EVERYONE in our little town. He was invested in the lives of SO many people. So, yeah. That was my random thought.
 
Ok. So here was my random comment for this week. I was driving the interstate and saw a trucker driving bob-tail (without a trailer). (It made me think of @steve ). It is terrifically difficult (for me) to back a 25 foot trailer . . . much less a 53 foot trailer. I can only imagine how pulling through downtown Chicago at 5 o'clock would be . . . or pulling in the snow . . . or trucking 60,000 lbs of live cattle. Driving just the semi without a trailer . . . . SOOOOO much easier.
It seemed to me a pretty good metaphor for manhood. It's a lot easier driving bobtail. If you're not pulling wives and a family . . . if you're not looking out for everyone else on the road as you are trying to make your way. It's a lot easier . . . but it's pointless. Just like a semi-tractor is BUILT for the load and without that load it's kind of pointless, so it is with men.

Also . . . Not to put single men out in the cold . . . one of my best friends never married, but he pulled EVERYONE in our little town. He was invested in the lives of SO many people. So, yeah. That was my random thought.

Another interesting analogy for that "driving bobtail". Studies and therapy experience are showing that what are called "heavy work activities" are hugely beneficial to all children, but have big impacts on children diagnosed with "sensory processing disorder" and "ADHD." These activities are just what they sound like - labor-intensive physical tasks - things like hauling jugs of water, pushing heavy boxes, pulling loaded wagons, etc. Therapists are finding children even as young as two are more calm, mentally engaged, and learn better for even a few hours after doing heavy work. They exhibit mental clarity and physical regulation they previously lacked.

For one, it makes me wonder about lifestyle changes in the last 100 years and the huge numbers of children being diagnosed with these "disorders". I wonder if this lack of physical hard work in daily life has contributed to these growing numbers of "disordered" children.

For two, considering that ADHD diagnosis is much, much higher in boys - and if you read the list of signs and symptoms, it's no wonder - how much *more* do our young boys need this heavy, load-bearing work!

That gets me around to your point about men basically driving themselves around without burden to bear. It is easy... too easy. And I'd posit that unattached men drifting in society display those signs and symptoms of ADHD metaphorically as well as physically. They don't have any "heavy work", heavy responsibility, appropriately weighing them down.

Edited to add: This extends to changes in childhood generally. We emotionally coddle our children (as a society) just as we protect them from much physical labor. Yet in so doing, we cripple them! Their bodies need hard physical work in order for their brains to regulate their bodies. And their minds need hard emotional work in order to cope with daily life. It is better to exhaust them, to some degree, both physically and emotionally. That leaves little excess energy for them to try and handle.
 
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For one, it makes me wonder about lifestyle changes in the last 100
My husband was raised by a man closer to my grandfather's age. He didn't raise boys, he raised MEN. The first time my husband told our sons that were maybe 12 and 14 to go dump the work truck and hook up the chipper I didn't know what to think, but now our crew of men stand out having old fashioned skills and abilities. Our three teens swapped an engine from one dodge truck to another this year....with no trouble and also no "adult suoervision"....they can diagnose and fix things....split wood, remove large trees safely, ....and they wouldn't have a clue how to play a video game.
They can dance, and play music too!

Old fashioned WORK teaches a lot.
(And correction should not be under rated)
 
Another interesting analogy for that "driving bobtail". Studies and therapy experience are showing that what are called "heavy work activities" are hugely beneficial to all children, but have big impacts on children diagnosed with "sensory processing disorder" and "ADHD." These activities are just what they sound like - labor-intensive physical tasks - things like hauling jugs of water, pushing heavy boxes, pulling loaded wagons, etc. Therapists are finding children even as young as two are more calm, mentally engaged, and learn better for even a few hours after doing heavy work. They exhibit mental clarity and physical regulation they previously lacked.

For one, it makes me wonder about lifestyle changes in the last 100 years and the huge numbers of children being diagnosed with these "disorders". I wonder if this lack of physical hard work in daily life has contributed to these growing numbers of "disordered" children.

For two, considering that ADHD diagnosis is much, much higher in boys - and if you read the list of signs and symptoms, it's no wonder - how much *more* do our young boys need this heavy, load-bearing work!

That gets me around to your point about men basically driving themselves around without burden to bear. It is easy... too easy. And I'd posit that unattached men drifting in society display those signs and symptoms of ADHD metaphorically as well as physically. They don't have any "heavy work", heavy responsibility, appropriately weighing them down.

Edited to add: This extends to changes in childhood generally. We emotionally coddle our children (as a society) just as we protect them from much physical labor. Yet in so doing, we cripple them! Their bodies need hard physical work in order for their brains to regulate their bodies. And their minds need hard emotional work in order to cope with daily life. It is better to exhaust them, to some degree, both physically and emotionally. That leaves little excess energy for them to try and handle.
This sound like exercises is beneficial.

Next steps would be find how much exercise is needes for benefits to start showing up and how much exercise is too much.

I'm willing to bet football game is enough. No need for construction work.

EDIT: Spelling, removed unnecessary parts.
 
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This sound like exercises is beneficial.

Next steps would be find how much exercise is needes for benefitscto start showing up and how much exercise is too much.

I'm willing to bet football game is enough. No need for construction work.

Early studies show that if a young child with ADHD-tendencies does 15 minutes of "heavy work", they can then be sat down to academic work and have strong attention for 2 hours. Obviously, expecting a young child to sit still for longer than 2 hours at a stretch would be unkind even for a "neuro-typical" child. But the finding is that you can take a child who can't sit still for even 5 minutes, wear them plumb out, and then they have mental clarity, focus, better memory, and their *capacity* to learn us greatly improved.

Football game, sure, that is strenuous work. Rough and tumble play wrestling and tickling is enough. Running around the perimeter of the house 5 times, a common solution a few generations ago, also works well. My husband will sometimes direct our children to do push-ups and sit-ups when they need some focus and attention.
 
Unfortunately in this case we can't just choose another alternative. To the best of my understanding, there are only really four fully-comprehensive search engines available - Google, Bing, Yandex and Baidu. Google and Bing are Western-biased, Yandex is Russian-biased, and Baidu is in Chinese and CCP controlled. Every other "alternative" search engine is just another way of accessing one or more of these engines (Yahoo and DuckDuckGo are both Bing for instance).

The entire internet experience these days centres around search engines - we have become completely dependent upon them to navigate the vast sea of data available, and there isn't really any obvious alternative to using them.

If both Google and Bing become unusable, this really does break the internet as it currently exists.
That is not currently actually true. Word of mouth. One could still access sites blocked by the search engines but will have to type it in manually it will be through word of mouth and through encrypted emails to safe guard such sites info
 
That is not currently actually true. Word of mouth. One could still access sites blocked by the search engines but will have to type it in manually it will be through word of mouth and through encrypted emails to safe guard such sites info
I didn't say it makes the internet completely unusable. I said that "the entire internet experience these days centres around search engines". Of course we can still visit known sites and share them with others. But that only accounts for some of our internet use. We have become highly dependent upon search engines for most day-to-day use of the internet, so this is an extremely serious development.

How do you do research into a new thing you don't yet have references for, nor does anyone you know, without a search engine?
 
How about startpage.com
I use startpage. It is, however, a meta-search engine, whose primary purpose (privacy) is to disconnect user searches from Big Brother. But the results it returns are (pretty obviously, if you look at them) tainted by the Gulag et al algorithms, from where it submits the searches anonymously.
 
How about startpage.com
Startpage is Google.

Startpage just takes your query, removes any way of identifying that query with you, sends it to Google, and gives you the results Google gives. It is private solely because Google does not know that @professionalrespect97@gma asked "how to make poison in my kitchen", but only knows that startpage.com asked that. Google still knows that someone asked the question, and Google is the one that delivers the results. If Google decides to censor results, then they censor the results at startpage.com.

I use startpage every day. I use it whenever I want to use Google. Just as I use duckduckgo.com whenever I want to use Bing. But I am well aware these search engines are simply privacy-improving interfaces for Google and Bing.
 
How about ecosia, or mojeek.com. web searches.
There are thousands of "search engines" in the world. However almost none of them actually have their own databases of the information on the internet - making a real search engine is an enormously complicated task, very expensive, and takes many years. Very few companies have the infrastructure to do it - as I said earlier, only Google, Microsoft, Yandex and Baidu. Every single other "search engine" actually sends your query to one or more of these companies, and shares those results with you. Some are trying to build their own databases to provide some of the results (Brave search for instance), but still rely on one or more of the big four to give the bulk of the results.
 
How about startpage.com
Still useful precisely because big ones don't know it is you. This blocks customizing results for you. It does remove some propaganda (one meant for you).

In long term it will create more competition willing to tell truth. I still expect conspiracy-to-truth pipeline to stay under one month.

Also event-finding conspiracy proof will get shorter. In took just few days after fire on Hawaii till finding state plans for buying same burned land. Just learning such things will took form of membership (following Twitter accounts, Discord groups).

It's always darkest just before dawn.
 
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That seems consistent with what I hear couples saying now. Sad thing is, it's also true for Christian couples. They no longer seem to be building relationships with other single friends or in their assembly. They don't have the depth of foundation for a subsequent marriage and end up in break-ups and divorce like 50% of others. :(
 
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