I have learned over the years that I can pour unlimited logical evidence into what is the leaky bucket of emotional need and never fill it up. At a very high level, I think using logic to meet need is the name of the game. In the marketplace it manifests as a payday which can fund fun and food, of the breaking of the one loaf into the thousands of pieces needed to feed the family.
So here is how I try to feed good food to the sheep in my life.
1) Faith in Yah and the principal of a single source of authority for a plural body of believers ( biblical family | Christ and the Church ) being the best way to grow family in this world. Families of the world will definitely not get this as easily, but have been hypocritical towards both love and faithfulness through their support social serial monogamy. This 'usage' of each other in the limited context of immediate monogamy for temporal pleasure will be far more damaging to women then men, the longer it goes on. As women get used in this hypocritical way of seeking a polyamories lifestyle, their value will 'decay' at a greater rate than men, and a lot of them will be fruitless in the sense of not inheriting the blessing of having children. Men can have children at any age if they have the resources. Which brings us to point 2.
2) Opposition of adversity against patriarchy - We must oppose adversity because adversity opposes us - otherwise we will be eaten and we will see the women and their potential children destroyed first. The church is currently complicit to this, and is instead focused on minting new believers. I'm not against bringing people to faith, but I think getting people past the maturity level of what has become 'spiritual elementary' is equally important. Salvation is the doorway to a becoming a mature member of a family - not an excuse to feel great and do whatever we want whenever we want.
I think most people here at biblical families have at least begun participating in the first two.
3) Hypocrisies in current believers - We really do need to be clear about this. The issue internally is we are dealing with 'righteous' people. A person righteous in their own mind won't be willing to accept a course correction (repentance) to believe the entirety of the biblical text - which is fully the most loving thing ever given to mankind. If you are sharing the truth of polygyny and you get something like 1 Timothy 3:2 thrown in your face, this is essentially what they are trying to do to you - to help you reach repentance. We know this verse is no evidence at all to those who have dug a bit deeper - but they are trying to convert you! We need to flip this script - people that 'sowed wild fields' and then settled down with one woman only to adamantly defend monogamy are on seriously faulty ground and helping to support the whole 'male sex drive is bad' narrative the culture runs with. We need to help the sheep find a road to true repentance before we can expect the church to be fruitful and replenishing again. You can also point out how when God creates monogamous animals in nature, they are always actually monogamous (one partner for life) and this can help revert their broken definition of what 'monogamy' is.
4) Hope in Yeshua, and the Law - Now, you do have one final issue that really complicates the entire thing - and that is what is the nature of the Torah and old testament writings. Obviously, if the old testament can be tossed off into a faith driven world where morality is overwhelmingly rhetorical in nature - then who knows what could happen? However if we could engender a reasonable respect for the original scriptures and bring it back into the light it was meant to be cast in (that it is the nature of Love when Spiritually fulfilled) than maybe things could go back to being in line with the true Tzelem Elohim for our families. So I focus on teaching that the law is good, that Yeshua fulfilled the law in that he fully embodied Love, and that in the law you see a heavily provisional patriarchal nature - a giving of self for the health of the family - and that the desire for a bigger family is a blessed desire, not something to be ashamed of.
5) Finally, be Attractive - and I'm talking about more that facial symmetry. The qualities of 'selflessness' often get seen as unattractive and the nature of hypergamy can even cause it to be seen as a type of weakness that the woman could resent if she can control the man and manipulate him. You can't lose these feminine traits as they are soft and helpful to family, BUT modern women are heavily masculinized so you really have to go extra far to appear masculine to them. So, to balance this - I am heavily focused on making as much money as possible, being as fit as earthly possibly, keeping myself well groomed and attractive, and really focusing on embodying primal attractive masculine traits and are typically desired by women. All of my 'selfish' time goes to improving my skills, my fitness, my overall capabilities in the world. Obviously I'm competing to bring home bread to my own - which is really what patriarchy is all about. The full embodiment of the softer skills of selflessness that it really takes to raise a loving family with a more assertive, dominant, and unapologetic approach to being patriarchal in nature with Yah at the center might be the meat and the secret sauce, so to say.
To those families here blessed to be living witnesses in their marriages, just keep that up. I am thankful to Yah for the growing witness.. It is the ultimate way to express support - by accomplishing the very thing itself in Love.
So here is how I try to feed good food to the sheep in my life.
1) Faith in Yah and the principal of a single source of authority for a plural body of believers ( biblical family | Christ and the Church ) being the best way to grow family in this world. Families of the world will definitely not get this as easily, but have been hypocritical towards both love and faithfulness through their support social serial monogamy. This 'usage' of each other in the limited context of immediate monogamy for temporal pleasure will be far more damaging to women then men, the longer it goes on. As women get used in this hypocritical way of seeking a polyamories lifestyle, their value will 'decay' at a greater rate than men, and a lot of them will be fruitless in the sense of not inheriting the blessing of having children. Men can have children at any age if they have the resources. Which brings us to point 2.
2) Opposition of adversity against patriarchy - We must oppose adversity because adversity opposes us - otherwise we will be eaten and we will see the women and their potential children destroyed first. The church is currently complicit to this, and is instead focused on minting new believers. I'm not against bringing people to faith, but I think getting people past the maturity level of what has become 'spiritual elementary' is equally important. Salvation is the doorway to a becoming a mature member of a family - not an excuse to feel great and do whatever we want whenever we want.
I think most people here at biblical families have at least begun participating in the first two.
3) Hypocrisies in current believers - We really do need to be clear about this. The issue internally is we are dealing with 'righteous' people. A person righteous in their own mind won't be willing to accept a course correction (repentance) to believe the entirety of the biblical text - which is fully the most loving thing ever given to mankind. If you are sharing the truth of polygyny and you get something like 1 Timothy 3:2 thrown in your face, this is essentially what they are trying to do to you - to help you reach repentance. We know this verse is no evidence at all to those who have dug a bit deeper - but they are trying to convert you! We need to flip this script - people that 'sowed wild fields' and then settled down with one woman only to adamantly defend monogamy are on seriously faulty ground and helping to support the whole 'male sex drive is bad' narrative the culture runs with. We need to help the sheep find a road to true repentance before we can expect the church to be fruitful and replenishing again. You can also point out how when God creates monogamous animals in nature, they are always actually monogamous (one partner for life) and this can help revert their broken definition of what 'monogamy' is.
4) Hope in Yeshua, and the Law - Now, you do have one final issue that really complicates the entire thing - and that is what is the nature of the Torah and old testament writings. Obviously, if the old testament can be tossed off into a faith driven world where morality is overwhelmingly rhetorical in nature - then who knows what could happen? However if we could engender a reasonable respect for the original scriptures and bring it back into the light it was meant to be cast in (that it is the nature of Love when Spiritually fulfilled) than maybe things could go back to being in line with the true Tzelem Elohim for our families. So I focus on teaching that the law is good, that Yeshua fulfilled the law in that he fully embodied Love, and that in the law you see a heavily provisional patriarchal nature - a giving of self for the health of the family - and that the desire for a bigger family is a blessed desire, not something to be ashamed of.
5) Finally, be Attractive - and I'm talking about more that facial symmetry. The qualities of 'selflessness' often get seen as unattractive and the nature of hypergamy can even cause it to be seen as a type of weakness that the woman could resent if she can control the man and manipulate him. You can't lose these feminine traits as they are soft and helpful to family, BUT modern women are heavily masculinized so you really have to go extra far to appear masculine to them. So, to balance this - I am heavily focused on making as much money as possible, being as fit as earthly possibly, keeping myself well groomed and attractive, and really focusing on embodying primal attractive masculine traits and are typically desired by women. All of my 'selfish' time goes to improving my skills, my fitness, my overall capabilities in the world. Obviously I'm competing to bring home bread to my own - which is really what patriarchy is all about. The full embodiment of the softer skills of selflessness that it really takes to raise a loving family with a more assertive, dominant, and unapologetic approach to being patriarchal in nature with Yah at the center might be the meat and the secret sauce, so to say.
To those families here blessed to be living witnesses in their marriages, just keep that up. I am thankful to Yah for the growing witness.. It is the ultimate way to express support - by accomplishing the very thing itself in Love.
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