Good things come to those who wait on YHWH.
Save YHWH builds the house, they that build it labor in vain.
Save YHWH builds the house, they that build it labor in vain.
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It seems your understanding of Christian marriage is different from most here in the forum. Christian marriage is a Christian man and a Christian woman united and seeking to live in accord with the Word of God. If someone wants out, he or she is not living in accord with the Word of God.
Let me be clear, people are sinners and sin will cause disruption to a marriage - whether Christian or non-Christian. Every marriage has problems because it involves sinners. The difference between marriages that work and those that don't is that one couple solves the problems and the other doesn't. Ultimately Christian couples have the same life goals because at the heart of their marriage is a desire to honour and serve Almighty God. They are united to achieve that end.
You fail to understand the devotion and commitment level that marriage calls us to. Many people live their whole married lives not getting what they want. Many sacrificially give of themselves and they are blessed for it.
Before a young man seeks women to pour into, he must spend some time to receive from good men.
Find solid, wise men of experience and commit to exploring life with their perspective on everything. You will uncover ways that your thinking needs submission to the Word of the Creator.
You will develop the vision and approach that will be magnetic. Then deal with those who are drawn in biblically consistent ways.
Find solid, wise men of experience and commit to exploring life with their perspective on everything. You will uncover ways that your thinking needs submission to the Word of the Creator.
You will develop the vision and approach that will be magnetic. Then deal with those who are drawn in biblically consistent ways.
Neither of you has disproved any of my point, if fact opposite has happened.
Number of wives is percentage of women man meets. Both of you have meet new women in life, therefore you proving my point. In my example, man doesn't meet any woman. Easy to achieve in life. Stay in same job with same people, free time goes on gaming and social media.
I have zero issues with understanding. You have issues with practical understanding of how human work.
Pat Stedman has recently posted how American women kill their marriage, while Italians avoid trap. American women have mindset that being mom means she isn't sex object anymore which, since female sexuality does run on being desirable, must kill sexual attraction and polarity.
Human sexuality doesn't run of your devotion for Lord, or your commintments. It has it own rules. Starvation awaits those who thing faith and spirituality is replacement for insufficient calories intake.
Again, not everything need for survival and prosperity is included in Bible starting with calories intake.
And this is great example why people are leaving religion.
You know not getting what you want can cause suffering? From when accepting suffering is human virtue?
I thought we are suppose to love each other which would imply doing good for others. Like for example healing sick people and/or reducing pain they fell. You seem to support telling sick people to suffer for Lord. Yea, attractive messaging.
Same for marriage. I thought Christianity is for happy marriages where couple enjoy being with each other. You support Christianity where spouse who suffers due to unfullied need it told to "suck it for Lord".
Tolerating suffering isn't virtue, but a vice.
Maybe, but in my practical misunderstanding I also have been blessed with two wives. It seems my misunderstanding "of how human work" has proven to be quite successful. Isn't that weird!
No, your ideas may work in your specific case. It may not translate into general success.
Also, there is question of success metrics. You use number of wives. But being married doesn't say much about marriage quality which also matters. Amd quality isn't so simple because what is criteria for quality.
I can't judge your marriage quality from here.
My general sense is that people here are OK with some pain in their life because commintment. Well, I'm not OK. I find such thinking excusing bad behaviour.
That's the whole point; my ideas work. @steve has his ideas and they work for him. @Joleneakamama has her ideas and they work for her and her husband. Yet we all try to work within the broadly biblical framework and have our marriages function in a way that honours and pleases Almighty God.
You do you and see how successful your ideas are.
Bad behavior is not excused, but we have the choice to both accept the reality, and how we respond to it. Jesus said "There must needs be offenses but woe unto those by whom they come." He also taught us to "Do unto others as we would have them do unto us." So someone acting dishonorably does NOT justify us doing the same.
No, the opposite has not happened.
You are totally misunderstanding what I wrote.
I say hi to multiple women per day but I don’t build enough of a relationship to even know if they are married or not.
My first marriage did grow out of a friendship started in a Bible study, but still she was exactly the second woman that I dated after my divorce. So the score there is 1 out of 2, as opposed to 1 out of 24 which you propose.
The other 3 I could have been gaming in my bedroom constantly and they still would have entered my life. Because Yah chose to bring them into my life. Well…… maybe not the half one, I might not be able to blame that one on Yah. Time will tell.
So I’m a fugitive from the law of averages.
If you are dependent upon the laws of averages then as @frederick said, you do you.
As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
Just don’t try to tell the rest of us that we are governed by the laws of averages.
Real question is how universal your idea is.
Only someone truly understanding sales universals would be able to stay successful by going from 10K to 1M sale. Most salespeople fail this change.
Most people here like to talk or even demand female submission. How will this work with modern women? LOL, she would roll her eyes.
Now, instinct is to Lord says...LOL, maybe real solution is inspiring her devotion.
Not even remotely same.
WTF, what statistics has with what I say?
Fundamental reality is that universe is ruled by causality. Cause and effect always coming together which can described using math. If classical math doesn't work, Boolean algebra does work on logic.
So I'm trying to rely on how reality itself works.
And what would you advise to man whose wife has decided to become not sexy because she is now a mom?
To accept situation because culture says so?
You know, Aristotle is totally right why some thing totally suck (including advice here).
Problem is that people here behave as Bible describes situation on left. Sadly answer is mostly no. Start with how to eat together, how to make love, how to instruct children, how to feed children etc............... And even if you can find some verse they are were general....
Human behaviour is domain of imagination. I don't assume that someone living biblically is living best possible life. In fact, their life can suck because they refuse to use imagination to vision better life and work toward vision.
This I will agree with and it applies to everyone and not just Christians.
Too many people put themselves in a proverbial box and they refuse to consider their own potential.
The thing I most vehemently object to is when some small minded, unimaginative imbecile not only insists that something is impossible but they act to forbid another person from attempting it.
Dull, unimaginative people who try to bully others into being as dull and lukewarm as they are, irritate me.
In your understanding, is Yah ever the cause?
You know, in philosophy one proof for existence of god is that something must be first cause of everything.
Besides, nothing stop Lord from being cause.