Tips for Sisterwives #1

[Tkarin]

Great message to all of us as we walk this journey.

 

[Keith Martin]

REMEMBER THE LOVE.

I say this with all respect to the VERY many awesome contributors to these forums, but I just can't restrain myself from making this personal observation: your entire post was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read in my life. A little hyperbolic? Perhaps. But not only was it well-written -- compelling; intriguing; interesting -- it was so extremely kind, gracious and deliciously self-deprecatory. Just like the perfect entree at a 7-star restaurant. And in the end it is simply A Gift, just as if He spoke directly through you.

Thank you, Ginny, from the bottom of my heart. It has inspired me to renew my efforts to get Kristin to create an account on here!

Blessings to you and everyone else in the Amelang clan. It will be my distinct pleasure to be in your midst next month.

Love,

Keith

 

[Keith Martin]

P.S. It's past the time during which I would have the freedom to edit my above post, but if I could I would fix the fact that I may have left the impression that I thought Ginny's post was a little hyperbolic.

What I was intending to indicate was that my having written that her "entire post was one of the most beautiful things I've ever read in my life" was a little hyperbolic.

I continue to stand by my assertion that what Ginny wrote was tremendously beautiful -- and not one bit hyperbolic!

Keith

 

[Dione]

Very nice and well written story. There sure are a lot of challenges my wives have to overcome, especially when it is something they don't like, this happens almost daily. What tends to occur is the issues get brought to me to handle between them, so it tends to be, "she didn't clean up after cooking" type comments. They don't want the other wife upset at them so I am the one who ends up being the bad guy, no matter how loving I present it. Personally I don't know how else to work around this, No matter who says it someone is upset or defensive.

I really appreciate your comment of doing it out of love not "fake". I hear the ladies say that sometimes that "I will just be fake on the outside". This never sits right for me but seems normal for the ladies to do. Prayer and submitting to God is the Key. Yet I understand when your upset some times you don't want to pray...

Thank you for sharing a bit into your life and home, always nice to see others experiences!

My SW and I had this issue in the beginning...and still do sometimes. Our husband finally quit responding when we would come to him with an issue that didn’t directly involve him. He would sit and listen, but his only response was “have you talked to her?”

That was so infuriating at first (at least for me). I would come to him because he had the experience in talking to her in a way that I didn’t. I wanted to know how he would handle things...but he basically forced us to figure it out. He had to learn how to talk to her when they first started, he had to learn to talk to me when we first started, and now it was our turn to learn to talk to one another.

In the long run, it forced us to create a real relationship between us as wives...one that had all too often been fake or non-existent. I despised that he made me talk to her in the beginning, but now, I am grateful for it. Without that forced interaction, there’s no telling how long we would have gone on walking on eggshells around one another.