Time in the game

[paterfamilias]

One here some of the old-timers would remember, sadly a demonic issue, and abandonment; but I don't count her a loss as long as there is a possibility of t'shuvah. Call it ten years.

First one coming up on 50, still a joy and blessing every day.

And the newest, one year in one more week.

So call it 61 and counting.

Another show off.

 

[FollowingHim]

Show off

Well, the whole thread is in response to you showing off!

Seriously, "comparing scores" is a pointless pissing competition. My sole purpose in providing a clear format for it was to highlight that it's not only about quantity of experience, but quality and variety. You need experience before you can offer marital advice - but everyone's situations are unique, and different people will have more relevant experience for each situation that comes along. For instance, some have been through divorce, some have avoided it - both perspectives and experiences are highly valuable for someone seeking advice on a marriage that is trending towards divorce.

So if people are going to compare scores, as humans do, using a more detailed metric allows us to actually see this variety and turn it from a pissing competition into something slightly useful - where we see who we respect as having experience and make sure we pay attention to when they are talking about marriage.

 

[Maddog]

Batting .500 here. Cumulative 45 plus prev gf.

 

[MeganC]

Until death do you part.

That's what matters here. There are people who get divorced after fifty years, does that mean they were a success for forty nine of them?

Marriage is a pass/fail proposition where you only really know if you passed when you die.

Failure can occur anytime.