Stumbling in our Freedom

[Maddog]

Plebe here, as scripture brings daylight vision to my freedom, I find again Romans 14.

But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died.
My wife chooses to follow me but is grieved by my freedom to eat meat (read into that the freedom to pursue another woman).
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
It is not good for me to cause my beloved to stumble but rather to build her up. I can't do that if I am constantly offending her sensibilities. Therefore my freedom to poly life is moderated by my sister, my beloved, because she is not convinced of HER freedom. It would be unkind at best to drive recklessly into the ditch and damage the car.
Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

I choose peace with my friend my beloved.

-M

 

[XYZ]

Preach!

 

[Stuckinthewoods]

This was powerful. Thank you.

 

[steve]

Somewhere there is a balance.
Completely serving her feels isn’t it.

I’m not judging you or where you are at.
My statement to my wife was something on the order of: “Don’t worry about it, as you continue to grow you will understand Yah’s understanding sometime down the road.”

 

[PilgrimJustPassingThru]

Plebe here, as scripture brings daylight vision to my freedom, I find again Romans 14.

But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died.
My wife chooses to follow me but is grieved by my freedom to eat meat (read into that the freedom to pursue another woman).
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
It is not good for me to cause my beloved to stumble but rather to build her up. I can't do that if I am constantly offending her sensibilities. Therefore my freedom to poly life is moderated by my sister, my beloved, because she is not convinced of HER freedom. It would be unkind at best to drive recklessly into the ditch and damage the car.
Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

I choose peace with my friend my beloved.

-M

I am trying to walk this fine line as well, and it's hard. My eyebrows have been wet with tears from praying on my face over all of this. It isn't easy.

 

[Maddog]

And to be sure, my beloved does not oppose patriarchy at all. All the more reason to be kind and gentle as her state is my responsibility.

 

[MemeFan]

I don't know man.

Greatest sign of woman being hot for the man is desire to carry his children.

So wife not being interested in your children means her not being hot for you. This is obvious case when couple's sexual strategy don't mutually agree.

I think you have similar problem. Your and your's wife sexual strategy don't agree.

And you have decided to wait as method of solving this issue.

EDIT:Spelling

 

[Maddog]

I don't know man.

Greatest sign of woman being hot for the man is desire to carry hus children.

So wife not being interested in your children means her not being hot for you. This is obvious case when couple's sexual strategy don't mutually agree.

I thibmnk you have similar problem. Your and your's wife sexual strategy don't agree.

And you have decided to wait as method of solving this issue.

I perhaps did not communicate well. I said NOTHING about her wanting my children. IF she had original equipment then we would have many. She does not. She is 65 and by this time the equipment expired. Sex is not the issue.

 

[MemeFan]

I perhaps did not communicate well. I said NOTHING about her wanting my children. IF she had original equipment then we would have many. She does not. She is 65 and by this time the equipment expired. Sex is not the issue.

Read again. Especially last paragraf.

 

[Joleneakamama]

But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died.

This is directed to men...not wives.
It is the only thing my husband could come up with as any reason to think twice....but there is more at stake than steak here.
There are real women out there that men literally don't exist for. My sisterwife slept a lot for months after joining us. She said she did not realize until she was here and he had taken that role as protector and provider that she had spent the last almost 8 years of her life in survival mode.
Polygyny offers are rare opportunity to "bear one another's burdens" on an extraordinary level.
I have absolutely loved being able to include as my family my two wonderful daughters in law. There is a cousin in law too that is very dear to me. That said my sisterwife and her children are also precious and dear, and another wonderful way that we can include unrelated people in our families. I am sure this is not for everyone, but it is a blessing when God is in it.

 

[frederick]

There are real women out there that men literally don't exist for.

This is glaringly obvious where I am currently. The number of single women in the church is probably double that of men. The tragedy is God has provided the men but society openly rejects it. Very sad.