Polygynous Honeymoons & Kody Brown
By L. Tyler, San Diego County, CA
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I just finished viewing TLC's coverage of Kody's honeymoon with his new wife, Robyn. I have problems with the way he did his honeymoon and the reactions of his three other wives make me think I'm not the only one. I believe the decision to have an 11 day honeymoon in San Diego was a bad one.
Reasoning from 1 Corinth 7:1-5 and my polygynous experience, I wish he had decided to take 11 days free from his employment, spent the 11 nights at home with the whole family, spent the 9 hours of daytime of the 11 days with exclusively with his new wife honeymooning, spent the first three nights with the new wife (if the other wives consented), and then spent the remaining 8 nights in his new rotation/schedule with all four wives. I know that doesn't seem very romantic, but I believe it is fair and takes into consideration the feelings and needs of the other wives.
My thinking immediately goes to the following:
***1 Cor 7: 2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. . . .4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], so that Satan does/will/may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control . . .
From this I understand that Kody's responsibility is to keep on sexually having his own women, and their responsibility is to keep on sexually having Kody. This marital obligation is partly based on the authority Jesus has given Kody over the bodies of his own women, and the authority Jesus has given Kody's own women over his body. This is the same kind of authority established by Jesus in Romans 13, except in this case the sword bearing and punishing is done by Jesus or his angels (1 Cor 11:30-32ff).
From that Scripture it is clear that Kody must not sexually deny any of his own women, and his own women must not sexually deny Kody, "unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that" they "may devote" themselves "to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], so that Satan does/will/may not tempt" them, because of their "lack of self-control." So any honeymoon that occurs in the Kody family would have to be arranged so that not one of the wives is denied sexual access and intimacy unless it is by mutual consent, and then only for a mutually agreed upon time of fasting prayer, followed by resumption of regular marital and sexual intimacy. So that is where I got the idea of Kody taking 11 days free from his employment, spending the 11 nights at home with the whole family, spending the 9 hours of daytime of the 11 days with exclusively with his new wife honeymooning, spending the first three nights with the new wife, Robyn, (if the other wives consented), and then spending the remaining 8 nights in his new rotation/schecule with all four wives.
The Bible is crystal clear that in one's marriage it is unacceptable to Jesus for there to be any prejudice, partiality, favoritism, or preferential treatment between the members of the marriage. The following Scriptures make it very clear there should be no prejudice, partiality, favoritism, or preferential treatment in the family's verdicts, decrees, trials, determinations, judgments or ordinances dealing with its own affairs and relationships.
***1Ti 5:21 I solemnly call upon you, in the presence of God and of Christ Jesus and of the elect angels, to carry out these instructions of mine without prejudice<4299 = or preferring one before another>,, and to do nothing from partiality<4346 = or favoritism>..WEY
>>>Strong's (4299) pro>krima, — prok’-ree-mah; a prejudgment (prejudice), i.e.
prepossession: — prefer one before another.
>>>Strong's (4346) pro>sklisiv, — pros’-klis-is; a leaning towards, i.e. (figurative)
proclivity (favoritism): — partiality.
***JAMES 2:1 ¶ My brethren, you must not make distinctions<4382 = or must not have partiality, favoritism>. between one man and another while you are striving to maintain faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, who is our glory. . . . 8 ¶ If indeed you keep [the] royal law according to the scripture, You shalt love your neighbour as thyself, you do well. 9 But if you have respect of persons<4380 = or partiality, favoritism>, you commit sin, being convicted by the law as transgressors.
>>>Strong's (4382) proswpolhyi>a, — pros-o-pol-ape-see’-ah; partiality, i.e. favoritism: — respect ofpersons.
>>>Strong's (4380) proswpolhpte>w, — pros-o-pol-ape-teh’-o; to favor an individual, i.e. show partiality: — have respect to persons
***PROV. 24:23 ¶ These things also come from the wise. It is not good to have respect of<5234 = or regard or care for; to disregard, ignore or reject> persons <6440> in judgment <4941 or decrees, trials, determinations>. . . .
>>>Strong's {5234} rk"n; — nakar, naw-kar'; acknowledge, care for, respect, revere, disregard, ignore, reject, perceive, regard, respect
>>>Strong's {6440} µynip; — paniym, paw-neem'; the face, countenance, person
>>>Strong's {4941} fp;v]mi — mishpat, mish-pawt'; verdict, decree, trial, determination, judgment, ordinance, court sentence
***PROV. 28: 21 ¶ To have respect<5234 = or regard or care for; to disregard, ignore or reject> of persons <6440> is not good; . . .
***LEV. 19:15 You shall do no unrighteousness in judgment; you shall not respect <5375 = accept, exalt, forgive, pardon, exalt, regard, spare> the person <6440> of the lowly, nor honour the person of the great; in righteousness shalt you judge your neighbour.
>>>Strong's {5375} ac;n; — nasa', naw-saw'; accept, exalt, forgive, pardon, exalt, regard, spare
***DEUT. 1: 17 You shall not respect <5234 = or regard or care for; to disregard, ignore or reject> persons <6440> in judgment <4941 or decrees, trials, determinations>; you shall hear the small as well as the great; you shall not be afraid of the face of man, for the judgment is God's; and the matter that is too hard for you shall bring to me, that I may hear it.
Righteous, just and fair judgment and justice; protection for the rights of the afflicted and the poor; pursuit of that which promotes peace and personal maturity/growth; acting without prejudice or bias; no biased respect of persons, no intimidating biased influences; no one is to be considered common or unclean or unimportant or expendable; no putting of spiritual or emotional stumbling blocks and fall-traps in the way of another -----sounds like a pretty darn good way to live. It's a shame that so few marriages in the world even come close to this standard. That should not deter us, for we can, to the best of our ability after and with His enabling, struggle to achieve this in our own sphere of influence and leave our microworld a better place when we are finished.
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. Just an observation.
