I think I was?. . . and in that spirit, I ask: were you there?
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“Is it holy -- or just damn selfish -- for a woman to have the attitude encapsulated by the sentiment: "I got mine, so it's just too bad for those bitches that they're lonely, unprotected and in most cases poor?"”Just posted this on Truth Social and X:
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Yup
My husband's nieces always told me "You just want a nanny" or You just want a maid" when the subject would come up. They would also say "I would never share "my" man!"
Here we are 20 years later....
One married a mature (but barely 18) Mennonite man (8 years younger then her) and now has 6 sons. The other stayed single....decided in her 30's she didn't want to miss out on the experience of having someone....got with a likeable guy that already had kids with 2 other women. She got pregnant, got married, separated (later legal divorce) because his habits made her nervous for her daughter's safety (drugs and alchohol) and while she was hoping he would get clean....he lost hope and commited suicide. Now she is a single mom of a three year old....and doesn't have a man to share.....but still wouldn't want to share.....even though she picked a guy she had to share with his other children.
I wanted someone I could build a relationship with that wouldn't get married and move away....or get so busy with her own family she had no time for me. I was trying to be friends with another Christian mom years ago and gave up when I heard they were so busy that a dinner with their pastor's family had to be planned over 3 weeks in advance! I knew we rated lower then their pastor's family....and so quit calling her at all.
I also felt that having a husband in common would allow a greater degree of support across the board...and also a greater degree of intimacy relating to what can be shared without exposing your marriage to an outsider. In other words I wanted what usually freaks first wives out....a trusted friend....a witness "in house" for this thing called life.
I first had empathy for those women without a good secure "relationship," then thought about the benefits for me....and seeing someone else loved and happy is the icing on the cake!
It doesn’t always work out that swimmingly, but He never promised us a rose garden.
I inject this because many have a Pollyanna mentality about how having another woman in the family is going to make life perfect. And when problems crop up, they bail out. Because it didn’t match their dreams.
Remember, people, marrying your present mate was going to make life perfect also.
I was married 5 years when the idea came up, twenty-five years before he found another. I think my expectations were reasonable.
After all, I still love him. Still don't think anyone else or anyplace else would be better then working things out. She feels the same way.
It did, so another will make it just as perfect again. Or is there something I'm missing here?Remember, people, marrying your present mate was going to make life perfect also.
That is a good point that needs to be heard by already married women who refuse to share their husband. The other side of the coin is what to do to persuade the women who have no husband, but will not consider sharing. They would benefit the most. Oh what to do! What to do!Just posted this on Truth Social and X:
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EDIT: One thought is to frame it in terms of the unmarried women needing to see this as a selfless act on their part, where they will actually be assisting the first wife in her duties.
Yeah God told David that He would have given him more for a reason.It did, so another will make it just as perfect again. Or is there something I'm missing here?
I feel that this thread has gotten derailed from being a Random Comments thread, to being about polygyny! Weird!
That's odd, because I have no memory of you being there. Doesn't mean you weren't; just that I'm drawing a blank.
It was right before Wuhan Flu became front page news.
All true, but given the degree to which we all have some free will, we also have to accept the fact that many women would just rather choose spending the last decades of their lives alone, unprotected, un-cared-for, unfucked and likely in poverty surrounded by their dogs and everything they tend to horde than to choose willingness to share a man.
Selfishness and desire to avoid social stigma are powerful motivators.
In that sentiment, I'll go full Random (given that a thread where this would have gone has been locked):
“Every human being on earth who cares about facts and can tell a lie from a truth knows that there was no such thing as ‘Palestinian nationalism’ until modern Zionism created it out of whole cloth, by placing enormous value on a piece of land that used to seem as precious to its landlords as a rat-ridden empty lot in a burnt-out neighborhood in the middle of nowhere, in the suburbs of nothing. The Jews gradually got possession of an arid stony wasteland . . . complete with the odd picturesque, crumbling, dirty town; and they loved it. They turned it into a gleaming, thriving, modern nation, not only a military but an intellectual powerhouse. And so it is only natural that the former owners’ descendants want it back, and remember how much their ancestors loved it, and how the new owners only got possession by wickedness and deceit. Such memories have the strange property of growing clearer instead of cloudier every day . . . There is no irreconcilable difference in the fight between Israel and the Palestinians, no bone-deep dispute that will haunt humanity forever. There is only greed and envy. They never disappear, but can easily move from one target to the next. The problem will be solved as soon as the world stops trying to solve it.”
David Gelernter, writing in the January 19, 2009, edition of The Weekly Standard
We just met one of our neighbors who left her husband for "infidelity". I bit my tongue, debating within myself whether to give her the hard truth that if she divorced him, he did not commit any infidelity. The silent faction won out, for the time being.
The Muslims demonstrated their love of destruction when Israel withdrew from Gaza and left behind intact farms where the Muslims could have fed themselves and even prospered by exporting food. Instead they immediately looted and destroyed everything. Irrigation systems were sold for scrap or else the pipes were fashioned into rockets. Tractors were torn apart and scrapped, and they looted and destroyed what was then a modern airport.
The morons destroyed their own future. And if for some reason they ever took charge of Israel they'd take that modern country and cast it into a dark age of poverty and ignorance.
Probably so, but all indications are that Israel knew full well in advance what Hamas was gearing up for, so it may be decades before all agendas are laid bare.
One thing's for sure, though: human beings are unceasingly ingenious in their ability to creating victimhood narratives.
Nothing ever gets old but us!Oh my.
As I’ve said before, one of the blessings of age is the ability to enjoy discovering things multiple times.
We just finished shearing our sheep for the first time. I shore the hoggets (the 1-year-olds) myself a few weeks ago, and we had a shearing gang in to shear the rest this week, which was a full-on mission. The older boys were with me in the woolshed baling wool, bringing in sheep, and doing many odd jobs to keep things running smoothly, while Sarah cooked amazing meals for the shearers and my eldest daughter helped my elderly grandfather make scones for morning tea each day (it's his farm I'm running now, and he's really desperate to still be helpful, but is not up to doing much any more). We had a fantastic time as a family, and I was really impressed with how all of the children threw themselves into it and genuinely wanted to learn. On the last day I asked who wanted to get up early and help - all four of the older children all volunteered. By the end of it the boys were keeping the catching pens full of sheep themselves, and were able to bale the wool without me doing anything more than occasionally commenting "are you forgetting something?". By this morning they had the shed so under control that I was down to "supervising" by having a nap with my dog in a pile of wool in the corner, until one of the boys threw a fleece in my face to wake me up. 
I am very happy with my family and my animals today.
I am very happy with my family and my animals today.
Yet another indicator: "Know the times and the seasons."
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On Wednesday, Karl Frisch, a Democratic member of the Fairfax County School Board, was sworn in for his second term not on a Bible, but on a stack of banned LGBTQ children’s books.
Perhaps an sign of "...moral decay."
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On Wednesday, Karl Frisch, a Democratic member of the Fairfax County School Board, was sworn in for his second term not on a Bible, but on a stack of banned LGBTQ children’s books.
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On Wednesday, Karl Frisch, a Democratic member of the Fairfax County School Board, was sworn in for his second term not on a Bible, but on a stack of banned LGBTQ children’s books.
Perhaps an sign of "...moral decay."