Okay, so I'm struggling with this thought.... We are called to love and treat others as we want to be treated. I don't want my wife being with another man, does this make me selfish, no. So when my wife didn't like me being with another woman, is she being selfish?
Am I not loving her because she feels hurt if I spend time with another woman? I don't think so, but I would feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.
At the end of the day, men and women aren't created equal, I understand this but this is not easy to tell another women. So are we men sinning because we agre with another woman other than our 1st wife because she feels unloved? Why does she feel unloved? The idea of marriage to her is the blissful, "he's mine, and I'm his" idea. She fears he won't love her the same, or have time as much for her, but this I say is not being un loving but more so her fear or selfishness. So why is it right for a man to be selfish in such a way but not your wife.
This comes up every time I date or spend time with another woman, so I struggle with the whole concept, I have two already, but am I wronging or not loving my 1st because she originally "in her heart" didn't want poly but accepted it?
Love to hear your thoughts all.
Am I not loving her because she feels hurt if I spend time with another woman? I don't think so, but I would feel differently if the shoe was on the other foot.
At the end of the day, men and women aren't created equal, I understand this but this is not easy to tell another women. So are we men sinning because we agre with another woman other than our 1st wife because she feels unloved? Why does she feel unloved? The idea of marriage to her is the blissful, "he's mine, and I'm his" idea. She fears he won't love her the same, or have time as much for her, but this I say is not being un loving but more so her fear or selfishness. So why is it right for a man to be selfish in such a way but not your wife.
This comes up every time I date or spend time with another woman, so I struggle with the whole concept, I have two already, but am I wronging or not loving my 1st because she originally "in her heart" didn't want poly but accepted it?
Love to hear your thoughts all.