Peeling The Onion- My Story

[WifeOfHisYouth]

It's sadness seeing this thread and no new article.

Looks like there is nothing more to share. To imcrease our understanding of poly.

Sadly, all things have end.

I’m sorry to report I have nothing of great value to add to my journey. The last year has been rather uneventful in my heart- which is also refreshing to my soul since the fear of plural is no longer as consuming as it use to be. I’m sure at some point God will give me new growing pains to work through. In the meantime, I’m just resting in peace and trusting that God will keep growing my heart as needed. The end of this journey? I’m not sure, maybe! Or, maybe, God will shake things up and I’ll have more content. Ha! Either way, I pray the layers I have already written will still resonate with others and bring some kind encouragement to whomever needs it.

Nonetheless, thanks for walking along this journey with me and taking the time to read my ramblings.

 

[MeganC]

I’m sorry to report I have nothing of great value to add to my journey. The last year has been rather uneventful in my heart- which is also refreshing to my soul since the fear of plural is no longer as consuming as it use to be. I’m sure at some point God will give me new growing pains to work through. In the meantime, I’m just resting in peace and trusting that God will keep growing my heart as needed. The end of this journey? I’m not sure, maybe! Or, maybe, God will shake things up and I’ll have more content. Ha! Either way, I pray the layers I have already written will still resonate with others and bring some kind encouragement to whomever needs it.

Nonetheless, thanks for walking along this journey with me and taking the time to read my ramblings.

Uneventful times are blessings and I am pleased that Our Lord has seen fit to bless you!

 

[Joleneakamama]

Uneventful times are blessings and I am pleased that Our Lord has seen fit to bless you!

Well said!

 

[loulou]

Awhile back, I was forced to dig into my own heart and look at the issues I had in regards to my husband’s desire for another wife. I spent many sleepless nights deep in thought and prayer. Over the course of months/ years, I have been writing down the layers I have had to work through. It’s rough and raw.. but



https://whenwebecamethree.wixsite.com/home/post/pealing-the-onion-intro

I hope you come along for the ride and can glean from some of the things God has taught me. May you learn from my mistakes and grow in grace.

Until next time, friends. <3

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It is hard for me because the person he is looking at is one of my friends and I have been cheated on before and my ex cheated with one of my friends

 

[bigonlife1981]

Wow just read your raw blog and it is beautiful and speaks to my heart as it is soo hard sometimes as a God Loving man to express how I can love two woman exactly the same but for different reasons and I can see the benefit to the whole family each brings.... thank you once again...

 

[Joleneakamama]

Wow just read your raw blog and it is beautiful and speaks to my heart as it is soo hard sometimes as a God Loving man to express how I can love two woman exactly the same but for different reasons and I can see the benefit to the whole family each brings.... thank you once again...

I think one of the biggest causes of divorce is women judging men from the place of their female heart, mind, and divinely ordained purpose, and men doing the same in reverse.

God made men and women very different, and understanding the opposite sex has to be done with the brain and heart with trust, understanding and listening to each other.

A woman cannot serve two masters, but a man can love two helpers.

It is hard for me because the person he is looking at is one of my friends and I have been cheated on before and my ex cheated with one of my friends

It would be nice if society (and wives) accepted polygyny and men felt they could be honest about a desire that may be lawful according to the Bible and possibly His will for the people involved. Often the deception with cheating does more damage then the desire for another. Then too the 'forbidden fruit' may be hard to not think about and the feeling of guilt can start driving a wedge between people even if it isn't acted on.

If you two are talking about this you are approaching it together. I think that is good. Even if you decide against pursuing it, you will get closer if you keep communication open and really listen to each other.

 

[Heavens Declare]

It is hard for me because the person he is looking at is one of my friends and I have been cheated on before and my ex cheated with one of my friends

Well yes this is a complete paradigm shift. We don't think in terms of "cheating" but rather in terms of dishonesty. Your current husband has not taken the cowards' route of pretending to be mono, while acting poly. You always had a poly relationship, but your ex blindsided you, whereas your current has been forthright, but he gets no credit for doing so, which only incentivizes dishonesty.