It is with much sadness I post this. After much thought and prayer the husband has asked me to leave. He said he just can't do this anymore. I am hurt beyond words. I don't know what to do or where to go as I uprooted my entire life for them. I'm sad because of the kids etc. Please just pray God would give wisdom.
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Praying.
So sorry to hear this Alexa. We are praying.
Mourning with you, we are deeply saddened.
We are all broken, Alexa. Yes, it thoroughly sucks to be where you are right now, but please also praise God that you have the capability of fully recognizing how much it sucks. It would be far more sad if being rejected from your home didn't have any effect on you. We will be praying for you. I'm glad you have a place to go, and I pray your cousins will provide rock solid support to accompany the blanket of protection your Father in Heaven intends to lay over your shoulders. We just drove through your area on our move from Pennsylvania through Mississippi to Texas a little over a week ago. If the timing had been different, I would have invited you to join us in heading down here to help unload the truck. You would have found a group of people sympathetic and supportive about what you're experiencing -- and we would have given you plenty to divert your attention away from your pain.
You will be strong, and embracing your pain is part of what will increase your strength.
You will be strong, and embracing your pain is part of what will increase your strength.
Keith,
Thank you. I am doing better today. I have been going through a lot of emotions but at least I know I made a good impact on the kids.
Alexa
Thank you. I am doing better today. I have been going through a lot of emotions but at least I know I made a good impact on the kids.
Alexa
I don't understand how after much prayer, a husband could ask one of his wives to leave, when Scripture is so clear about this. So sad!
Not everyone can handle the pressure.
Praying and asking God if it is OK to divorce one of your wives, is sorta like praying and asking God if the Book of Mormon is true.
Praying you are protected and led and provided for in this difficult time.
I am praying that God will bring judgement to this man, that will lead him to repentance, and if he doesn't repent, that God will take him out like he did with Nabal. He can give this man's wives to someone who will love them and care for them, and not use them and dispose of them when he is done with them. I have more respect for monogamous men, who leave their wife ostensibly for another woman, not knowing that they don't have to leave their wife in order to marry the other woman. This fellow here knows better than to do that sort of thing, and yet he sent you away anyhow!
I read one of your posts in the Ladies Forum, where you said that your husband likes to quote Scripture at you all the time, but I guess he doesn't really want to follow Scripture. It irks me when I see people trying to insert the word "Spiritual" when they talk about the allowance for porneia, and then turn around and use any thing they disagree with you on Biblically, and refer to that as Spiritual fornication. It really irks me that some of us have been trying to find a second wife for quite some time now, and here this man is kicking his wife to the curb! Some of the men here have had one of their wives leave them, and they are hoping that she will return, and here this fellow is, TELLING his wife to leave! He is giving the rest of us a black eye of embarrassment, and anybody looking for a reason to disparage what we stand for, will point to this isolated incident as their proof, their anecdotal evidence that we are wrong. It discourages any single woman who might consider joining a family, although one would hope it would encourage her to make a wiser decision in which family to join, the reality is that many won't join one at all when they see this garbage.
You know, one of the reasons it took me so long to get my wife on board with polygamy, was the fear that she had that I would not need her once I found another wife, and that I would get rid of her. I have assured her that I will never leave her nor forsake her, and I think that once I realized that she needed that assurance, that is when she finally opened up to the idea. My wife often responds by telling me that that is what Jesus said, and my answer to that, is that I want to be like Him. Just as Christ loved the church, so we are to love our wives.
I read one of your posts in the Ladies Forum, where you said that your husband likes to quote Scripture at you all the time, but I guess he doesn't really want to follow Scripture. It irks me when I see people trying to insert the word "Spiritual" when they talk about the allowance for porneia, and then turn around and use any thing they disagree with you on Biblically, and refer to that as Spiritual fornication. It really irks me that some of us have been trying to find a second wife for quite some time now, and here this man is kicking his wife to the curb! Some of the men here have had one of their wives leave them, and they are hoping that she will return, and here this fellow is, TELLING his wife to leave! He is giving the rest of us a black eye of embarrassment, and anybody looking for a reason to disparage what we stand for, will point to this isolated incident as their proof, their anecdotal evidence that we are wrong. It discourages any single woman who might consider joining a family, although one would hope it would encourage her to make a wiser decision in which family to join, the reality is that many won't join one at all when they see this garbage.
You know, one of the reasons it took me so long to get my wife on board with polygamy, was the fear that she had that I would not need her once I found another wife, and that I would get rid of her. I have assured her that I will never leave her nor forsake her, and I think that once I realized that she needed that assurance, that is when she finally opened up to the idea. My wife often responds by telling me that that is what Jesus said, and my answer to that, is that I want to be like Him. Just as Christ loved the church, so we are to love our wives.
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Daniel,
I have not given up on polygamy. I don't believe a man should beat his wives down with Scripture and tell me that since we were in a super small town not to arouse suspension that we would go to separate churches and then tell me that the Pastor's wife needed to teach me how to be a better wife. On top of all this, I changed my last name legally. I got an amended birth certificate, social security card changed everything to make it more official if you will. I uprooted my entire life and to be discarded as if I am trash worthy of nothing really hurts. I praise the Lord that the church where I was going separately on occasion has graciously given me an air mattress and a warm building to sleep in and such. They have gotten me food and allowed me to shower in their home and treated me incredibly kind and have had me in their home now during the day and so I am not in a vehicle in 20 degree weather at night. I run the gammit of emotions but the Lord knows. The Lord never wastes a hurt. I am confident like Job that when he tries me I shall come forth as gold.
Alexa
I wasn't referring to you. I am thinking more along the line of outsiders, but it looks like your hubby wanted to hide the truth from outsiders.
Well, as husbands, we are to be the Spiritual leaders of our home, and we ought to know Scriptures, but a man who knows the Scriptures, but doesn't follow them, is not going to thought of highly around here. This husband of yours also should not leave it up to the pastor's wife to teach you either.
Yep. and we here at Biblical Families will never stand for any man treating one of his wives like trash to be discarded.
I love the church, even if they have flaws. A lot of people around here have been burned by the church though, so I can understand their frustration. It is sad when they are called on to take up the slack for somebody who is living irresponsibly.
I can't blame you for feeling hurt. I can only hope this man does what is right, but if he refuses to do so, God will hold him accountable. Matt 5:32 tells men that they are held responsible when they discard their wives, when the wife has not committed porneia. There is no "I can't do this any more" excuse in the kingdom of God. With God all things are possible. We are here for people who need that sort of support, that perhaps your husband needs to join this ministry. I fear though, that he has been listening to a bunch of lies, and no longer adheres to what the Bible teaches about marriage. I say that because when somebody says that they can't do this any more, it has two possible meanings: 1) They cannot handle the stress that comes with nurturing a second wife. 2) They have come to believe that what they are doing is wrong, and believe that they have no choice but to divorce all but one of their wives. That may be the reason he did this "after much prayer". If this is the case, the burden of responsibility for the breakup of your marriage, partially lies with the church who promotes these lies.
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We are sorely in need of a major Bib Fam in-person gathering, aren't we?
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