If your wife is still juggling the emotions in waves, if you go alone don’t be surprised if she melts down after you leave. I don’t think it’s uncommon for a lot of first wives to feel nauseous, scared or just stress out thinking you are going to just have sex and come home with a new wife after that first meeting/date. Some of us throw logic out the window in those first new experiences. Be patient with her and get her connected with other first wives that understand the irrational emotions but that will always encourage her in her marriage and God’s word.