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Why is PM not practiced more in Judaism?

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Alright so, sorry if this is the wrong forum, wasn't sure where to ask.

Not sure who to direct this to, maybe @IshChayil ?

Anyone know why modern Judaism (and Israel especially) does not practice polygamy like they used to? I know the history of the Roman influence and so on, but considering how many Muslim countries still practice it (and some others, like some African cultures), it seems odd to me that Israel does not.

Anyone know why this is?
 
Rabbis make stuff up. Just kidding. Well maybe not. No really, just kidding. So do Catholic priest.
 
Technically, I think Gershom presided over an assembly, but the result was named after him. My suspicion is that Jews were feeling enough 'love' from the Roman Catholic Church.... this was a preemptive move to reduce persecution.

Ironically, in the last year or two, rabbis in Israel have started dispensing poly permission in select cases.... barren wife, etc.

That's right at 1000 year after the 1020 decision.
 
It was a move to appease the Gentiles, but in only one of the lines. Sephardic maybe.
I’m too beat to research it, so I am just spouting my memory.
The 1000 years was because it was only appeasement, it wasn’t to be a change in what was righteous before YHWH.
I am told that there are tons of NY Jews with more than two, including concubines. It’s considered normal to them.
 
The ban was to ashkenazi Jews. I could see it be more common in religious Jews everywhere if the Israeli government changed their laws. The is a growing number of people in the closet in messianic Judaism (whether of Jewish descent or not) that are seeking or support polygyny. Ive always known polygyny was fine from the time I was a child (go figure)but I observe new comers discovering polygyny truth through Torah study. Contrast this with the reform and conservative sects of Judaism which make up a huge chunk of Jews which quite honestly disregard the Torah for the most part and use the synagogue as a type of country club. These two movements for the most part support gay marriage also along with other abominable things. This leaves the orthodox and ultra orthodox which I think are coming around also but also they look to the Rabbis for everything and arent as independant in thought as Messianic individuals (I dont look to the Rabbinfor approval and many others dont either). Check out I believe it's called your arms of love to Israel on Youtube for some more insight.
 
Interesting enough, to this day most Jews still deny Jesus is Christ, just like they did when they had him killed. No surprise they didn't accept PM any longer even though the law of moses gave specific rules to husbands of more than one wife. The Jews and most of the modern day church go off of their interpretation and what they think. Most common one I hear is "well in that time it was part of the culture" or something similar said to that. Jesus was very clear, he said he didn't to abolish the law, nor even the slightest pen stroke shall be removed until all has gone away, heaven and earth. Not even the slightest pen stroke, culture or time line had really nothing to do with the living word of God, it says what it says and means what it says, that's it.
 
Rabi Gershom banned it for 1000 years, ironically about 1000 years ago.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gershom_ben_Judah
Gershom's ban applied only to Azhkenazi Jews..., basically half of world Jewery (though the majority before the holocaust).
Even during his ban Azhkenazi Jews could take an additional wife but they needed approval from 100 rabbis!
I bid on one of these 100 rabbi documents on ebay last year (lost).
 
There is an interesting article I found a couple years back that had a section on the history of polygamy within the Jewish community. This is the section of the article.

"The change from expressing monogamy as an ideal and forbidding polygamy outright occurred about one thousand years ago in Germany (for Ashkenazi Jewry). Rabbi Gershom Ben-Yehudah (960-1028, called 'our Rabbi Gershom the light of the Diaspora') and his associates lived in a particularly difficult time for the European Jewish community. They sought to reduce the friction between the Jewish community and their Christian neighbors and to answer some new problems which had developed in Europe. These rabbis issued a series of regulations (takanot); the most important, of course, was the ban on polygamy. They also made divorce more difficult so that men could not “dump” their wives to remarry. The new regulations were for “these lands” (Germany and France etc.) and for a defined period of time (about 250 years). After that period, monogamy was so well entrenched that the takanah became tradition and continues to this day."

"The rabbis left two small loopholes: 1) levirate marriage and 2) the Rule of 100 Rabbis. The rabbis preferred that women bound to marry her husband’s brother through the levirate should release the man from the obligation if he was already married. However, they realized that there could be situations where a woman would prefer the security of the levirate marriage and so left open that possibility. The Rule of 100 Rabbis was the direct result of the new regulations. The changes in divorce law required the woman to physically accept the divorce decree from her husband. If she was incapacitated or mentally ill, she would not be legally able to accept the divorce. In those cases, the husband had to find 100 rabbis in four different “countries” who would agree to sign off on the second marriage. In the Middle Ages this was very difficult and rarely done (today unfortunately, it has been abused by husbands to force the hand of their wives in divorce disputes, see Amit 2001)."

"In the Muslim world, Sephardi Jews continued to practice polygamy should they so desire. However, a codicil was often written into Sephardi marriage contracts obliging the husband to get his wife’s permission to marry a second wife. Over the last millennium, the two traditions existed simultaneously. There is some evidence that Sephardi Jews living in Germany occasionally married additional wives with no opposition from the local Ashkenazi rabbis. This tolerance of polygamy continued in the land of Israel. In fact, when the British authorities tried to ban polygamy and to declare the children of additional wives as illegitimate; the Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi Isaac Herzog defended the right of Sephardi Jews to continue the practice."

"This pluralistic approach to polygamy ended soon after the state of Israel was declared when in 1949, Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion‘s government made polygamy unlawful (New York Times 1949). Chief Rabbi Herzog and his Sephardi counterpart, Rabbi Yitzhak Nissim, both Zionists, felt that one united Jewish tradition should be developed in the new Jewish state. In 1950, they convened a large conference of rabbis to discuss the issues separating the communities, first and foremost among them polygamy. The conference decided to ban future polygamy while “grandfathering” existent polygamists. However, like Rabbenu Gershon, they left a loophole: Sephardi men would be permitted to marry a second wife in circumstances where both the Ashkenazi and Sephardi Chief Rabbis signed off on the request; in practice, the Ashkenazi Chief Rabbis have steadfastly refused to sign off on such requests."

"In the 1970s, this issue reached a climax. Chief Rabbi Yoseph agreed to certify the second marriage of a childless man (he had always emphasized the fertility issue) but the Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi Shlomo Goren refused to sign the certificate. The petitioner took his case to the Supreme Court in Israel which refused to change Goren’s decision. So for all practical purposes, polygamy has been unlawful in Israel since 1950."

Here is the link to the full article if you would like.
https://www.avotaynuonline.com/2015...western-tradition-religion-culture-and-class/
 
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