What Traits Make for a Good Sister Wife?

[The Protector]

What character traits should I look for in a first or other wife? Specifically those that are conducive to our lifestyle? I would especially appreciate answers from sister wives and men already living the lifestyle as well as people that feel attracted to this lifestyle.

I'm looking for my first wife and I'm very thankful to God that I don't have to go through this with someone I am already married to with the previous understanding that this would never happen. However, it has been a blessing to read your testimonies and see God share this vision with both of you simultaneously or within a short period of time. Something new and special is happening and I am intrigued and grateful to be a part of it. Why is God doing this? Why is God doing this in a culture that could not be more hostile to it? When the economy is in the tank? I can't wait to see what God does!

Possibilities:
Not the jealous type, loves children, loves the children of others, hates being alone, gets lonely easily, gets along with other girls, places higher importance on home and family than hobbies or career, etc.

I would like this to be a blessing and a good fit for a girl that it will make happy for her whole life rather than a difficulty but I know nothing in this life is a cake walk.

 

[FollowingHim]

Short advice: Don't look.

Pray, keep your eyes somewhat open so you don't completely miss her, but don't hunt for her. The right woman will likely have different character traits to what you think of anyway. God's plans are weirder than we anticipate, but wonderful! God will bring her along in His time.

 

[Paul not the apostle]

Hey dude,

The most important thing is to constantly seek and pray for God to make you a better man. Be stable, responsible, and take care of your body (the Lord's temple), and the women will find you. I would also encourage you to pray that God would provide you with the wisdom, humility, and strength required to be a Godly husband, regardless of how many wives he places in your care.

Other than that, God told David that all He would give him more wives if he had simply asked.....so I prayed for God to make me a man after His own heart, just like David...and to give me another wife too.

When God sees that you are ready to be the covering for one of His daughters, He will place her in your care.

Blessings,
Paul

 

[Tali]

Bro,

I am a sister wife in training, and my training wheels officially come off when my dh and sw tie the knot at the up and coming retreat! While I understand that what you mean by "hates being alone," ( i.e.,you are wanting someone who does not have a "take it or leave it" attitude re: having a man, another woman, kids, etc around,) there are just times when wives are unavoidably alone. It goes with the territory, and I think something that is important is that your first as well as subsequent wives be people who have lives, if you know what I mean.

God most definitely let us know that it is not good for man (or woman) to be alone. But in addition to all the qualities of a virtuous woman, and specific compatibility with you, your first wife needs to be willing to at least try to strike the balance between needing you and not being uber-needy. Not an easy job for anyone, but well worth the effort.