lights12 said:he shuts right up again. So what happens exactly??? It is frustrating on many levels!!! I thought growing up with two women would have kept him more open although maybe he wouldn't talk to me at all if he hadn't...I don't know.
CecilW said:Thus, if a woman has something on her mind, whether she is up or down, she wants to talk it through.
When a man has something on his mind, he retreats into the depths of his cave, processes it, then returns to the entrance to announce his conclusions. Sorry, it's his nature.
This is very frustrating to the women in his life who are left at the mouth of the cave, jumping up and down and yelling, "Hey! Come OUT of there! I wanna talk!"
It is also a prime reason why PM makes sense. She has someone to talk with, while he is off in his cave. No-one has to feel pressured out of their natural zone when something needs to be thought through. Seeing this benefit was one of the reasons why I began to study PM seriously.
Reason #5 on "The top ten reasons a guy should become a polygamist":
"The wives could process their days and feelings WITH EACH OTHER! Listen. John Gray proved in 1992 with hard science that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. We're different. These differences create a lot of conflict. Women need to end their days with endless narratives about what happened to them and how they feel about it, which makes men ache for early death. In a polygamous situation, the wives could process together and be good listeners for one another while I spent the evening thinking about nothing. Seriously, ladies, that's why men look so blank. They're trying to not think about anything. If my wife didn't talk to me, I'd be a Zen master or some crazy crap like that."