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The ladies are getting called out

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On this discussion some lady was saying how women who pratice plural marriage are either "desprate or don't really know about the bible". But don't worry ladies I gave yall props! :D I am just wandering why people more so women would knock other women who chhose to live this way?
 
it started back in kindergarten, gang up on anyone who is different :cry:
 
Pretty Tulips said:
But women in general, have a tendency to attack that which they find a threat or inferior. Women are emotional and a good majority are very sensitive, even overly sensitive beings; therefore we usually react to the emotional side of a situtation before thinking it through (if we make it to the thinking it through stage.)
I've encountered several women that have asked me why I think so low of myself that I feel I need to go "steal" someone's husband. I personally believe these women are hurting inside and have not fully accepted the gift God has given them (husband). They are there to manipulate and take control of everything and therefore, any woman that is willing to love a man so much she's willing to share him, must obviously be weak.
And Steve, you have it almost correct, but it started in the womb, because most women get this kind of thinking from their own mothers and other women in their own family and circle of friends.
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I agree with a lot of this but I'm thinking the largest factor is socialization. From the time girls enter school, they are taught both directly and indirectly that polygyny is wrong. Most families are not polygynous, so girls don't see polygyny modeled for them at all. The combination between home & school is a very powerful factor. After years of this the message becomes ingrained in females that polygyny is aberrant. It also will go against the "it's all about me" mind-set that dominates our culture.
Blessings,
Fairlight
 
I am (shockingly) agreeing with Fairlight here, she is correct that it is about socialisation in general. I think women in western culture get a lot of feedback regarding a sort of boredom threshold for men that is makes us insecure in whether we will ever be able to have the love and continuing support of the men we love. The monogamy culture means that we see other women as a threat who are out to take 'our man' from us. Often, it takes a HUGE amount of trust to put those fears aside to trust any man enough to marry, so it benefits these women to believe, very strongly in not only the monogamy only paradigm, but also the monoamory paradigm, in that their husbands do not even POSSESS the capability of loving more than one woman at a time. This belief system helps them to feel that their marriages are stable and secure, anyone putting forth the idea that this is a flawed mindset are greeted with derision and since they are usually in the majority they can use bullying tactics to silence the person who makes THEM feel uncomfortable.

B
 
It is the same on every board I have seen. Women attack other women because they think that their way is the only way. My sisters both did it when I told them about my choice. It threatens their belief system. If they allow that it might be biblical truth then they would have to accept that their husbands might do the same thing and they might have to make uncomfortable choices. Much better to call others names than to figure out what is wrong in your own heart that you feel so threatened.

SweetLissa
 
Isabella, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your post. Your words are just what my heart has been needing. If I may, are you a first or second wife? I would really like to talk with you more about this and was curious from what viewpoint you were speaking (fw,sw, etc). Take care! :) <3
 
I have noticed the worst one on there started out civil and ended with threats. So I noticed her profile and she isn't married has 3 kids that she claimed on another discussion is from 3different men. So that's why I was wandering why knock any one in the first place?
 
Thank you irishprincess09, that was a very nice feedback for this old babbler... :) I like to think that I am not talking necessarily from the pov of someone who has experienced this but what I have noticed as a daughter, friend and sister of women who have a lot of trust issues with men, very often there fears are justified because they have been treated badly, after a while your trust erodes and it can be quite hard to start trusting again, I am lucky that I have, for the most part, been an eternal optimist but I don't blame others who are not so.

I think the majority of us have been indoctrinated so much by the culture of monoamory that we sometimes find it hard to believe it ourselves, even when we have seen it in action we find it hard to believe, funny how no one ever questions the idea that you can love more than one child equally but so many are so insistent that you can only love one romantic partner....the hypocrisy is blinding.

B
 
monoamory, a totally delicious word that i have never heard before. and of course it is completely required in the monogamy-only mindset.
thanx for popping that one in there, bel
 
steve said:
monoamory, a totally delicious word that i have never heard before. and of course it is completely required in the monogamy-only mindset.
thanx for popping that one in there, bel
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No worries Steve, I can't claim credit for it, it is hanging out somewhere in cyber space, forgot where though.
 
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