Greetings brothers and sisters,
I’d like to open up a discussion rooted in Biblical patriarchy and the righteous practice of Christian polygyny.
As many of us are striving to restore godly order in our homes and communities, an important question arises for those already walking in a polygynous marriage: Should current wives take an active role in helping their husband find and court an additional wife?
On one hand, Scripture upholds the husband as the head of the household and the one who governs and initiates. Yet we also see examples—especially in the Old Testament—where women played a role in building their husband’s house, sometimes even introducing or supporting the addition of another wife or concubine (e.g., Rachel giving Bilhah to Jacob in Genesis 30:3).
If a wife is truly submitted to her husband’s vision and understands polygyny as a path of dominion and blessing, should she then be proactive in expanding the household by seeking a godly woman to join them? Or does this risk stepping into a role of leadership that isn’t hers to carry?
I’d especially like to hear from:
Is it helpful or harmful? A sign of obedience or overreach? Let’s reason together in truth and humility.
In Christ and His Order,
Lord Redbeard
— A Brother Seeking Wisdom
I’d like to open up a discussion rooted in Biblical patriarchy and the righteous practice of Christian polygyny.
As many of us are striving to restore godly order in our homes and communities, an important question arises for those already walking in a polygynous marriage: Should current wives take an active role in helping their husband find and court an additional wife?
On one hand, Scripture upholds the husband as the head of the household and the one who governs and initiates. Yet we also see examples—especially in the Old Testament—where women played a role in building their husband’s house, sometimes even introducing or supporting the addition of another wife or concubine (e.g., Rachel giving Bilhah to Jacob in Genesis 30:3).
If a wife is truly submitted to her husband’s vision and understands polygyny as a path of dominion and blessing, should she then be proactive in expanding the household by seeking a godly woman to join them? Or does this risk stepping into a role of leadership that isn’t hers to carry?
I’d especially like to hear from:
- Men currently walking in polygyny
- Wives who have embraced sisterhood in the home
- Those who have studied historical or Scriptural precedent on this matter
Is it helpful or harmful? A sign of obedience or overreach? Let’s reason together in truth and humility.
In Christ and His Order,
Lord Redbeard
— A Brother Seeking Wisdom
