My wife is a first born and very independent. So much that in our third year of marriage, I said "maybe we should think about having kids" and she replied "you can not do that to me!". Get this, she did not want to have kids so she could serve God in missions! The good news is 20 years later, she is now ready to submit to me and be my helpmeet. Pray for her fears and for faith to trust God and me. Also pray for me to find work. I am a construction worker (plumber) and work is very slow, but God has and is providing! Thanks.