scottlee777
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need prayers for my wife
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Re: need prayers for my wife she is blinded to the truths of thi
Scott,
Thank you for joining and for sharing your pain with us. I want to caution you that with your wife in a place of such pain, this is not the time to be trying to get to the truth of polygamy. Your work right now is foundational. This doesn't mean that you don't believe in poly, but it is not your chief concern right now. If your marriage isn't strong, then there is no way you should be looking to add a wife to the mix. Not only would it be unfair to the wife you have but imagine the poor woman who comes into your life only to find such pain.
First you need to search your heart and God's word for the type of husband that you are and should be. The first thing that must change is you. If it were your wife writing this, I would tell her to search her heart and God's word for the type of wife that she should be. You cannot point at her problems and tell her to fix them until you have examined yourself to see what you might have done to contribute to this condition that you are in. Marriages have more than one person in them and if they are not perfect it usually has to do with all parties.
When you have examined yourself and made corrections as the Holy Spirit leads you to, then you may see some automatic changes in her that are made voluntarily without you saying a word.
I would suggest that you and your wife begin a bible study that deals with any subject but polygyny. Start by creating a habit between you to search out God's will on everything. But this must be a mutual study, not you telling her what she is doing wrong. That will only make her more angry and more hurt.
There is a book called "Man and Woman in Biblical Law" that discusses God's plan for Men and Women. It includes polygyny but is not limited to it. Here is the link. I believe it is downloadable. http://www.newcovenantpatriarchy.com/.
I know you asked for prayer, and I will pray, but my heart went out to you two in your place and I thought I would share a bit.
SweetLissa
Scott,
Thank you for joining and for sharing your pain with us. I want to caution you that with your wife in a place of such pain, this is not the time to be trying to get to the truth of polygamy. Your work right now is foundational. This doesn't mean that you don't believe in poly, but it is not your chief concern right now. If your marriage isn't strong, then there is no way you should be looking to add a wife to the mix. Not only would it be unfair to the wife you have but imagine the poor woman who comes into your life only to find such pain.
First you need to search your heart and God's word for the type of husband that you are and should be. The first thing that must change is you. If it were your wife writing this, I would tell her to search her heart and God's word for the type of wife that she should be. You cannot point at her problems and tell her to fix them until you have examined yourself to see what you might have done to contribute to this condition that you are in. Marriages have more than one person in them and if they are not perfect it usually has to do with all parties.
When you have examined yourself and made corrections as the Holy Spirit leads you to, then you may see some automatic changes in her that are made voluntarily without you saying a word.
I would suggest that you and your wife begin a bible study that deals with any subject but polygyny. Start by creating a habit between you to search out God's will on everything. But this must be a mutual study, not you telling her what she is doing wrong. That will only make her more angry and more hurt.
There is a book called "Man and Woman in Biblical Law" that discusses God's plan for Men and Women. It includes polygyny but is not limited to it. Here is the link. I believe it is downloadable. http://www.newcovenantpatriarchy.com/.
I know you asked for prayer, and I will pray, but my heart went out to you two in your place and I thought I would share a bit.
SweetLissa
Re: need prayers for my wife she is blinded to the truths of thi
Hi Scott
My family will pray for you and your wife, that you marriage will be all that God longs for it to be, that you are a blessing to your wife and that she is a blessing to you.
I agree with everything Lisa has said and know that this trial will be to God's glory, if sought through with Him, in His word, together. It is good for each of us men to remember the passge "if you have been faithful in the little things I will grant you bigger things". At the core of spiritual leadership is a man "washing his wife in the word of God". Why? That she may considered holy and blameless. This is the picture of Christ with His bride (the church). As we examine those in the church they may seem to be anything but without spot or wrinkle (Eph. 5:27), but in Jesus eyes they (we) are.
Trust His word, but offer it lovingly, in the sense of bathing not drowning. Through the course of this see her as Christ sees you (us). Love unconditionally, and "stand and see what the Lord will do".
Again, welcome and you are in our prayers.
Ray
Hi Scott
My family will pray for you and your wife, that you marriage will be all that God longs for it to be, that you are a blessing to your wife and that she is a blessing to you.
I agree with everything Lisa has said and know that this trial will be to God's glory, if sought through with Him, in His word, together. It is good for each of us men to remember the passge "if you have been faithful in the little things I will grant you bigger things". At the core of spiritual leadership is a man "washing his wife in the word of God". Why? That she may considered holy and blameless. This is the picture of Christ with His bride (the church). As we examine those in the church they may seem to be anything but without spot or wrinkle (Eph. 5:27), but in Jesus eyes they (we) are.
Trust His word, but offer it lovingly, in the sense of bathing not drowning. Through the course of this see her as Christ sees you (us). Love unconditionally, and "stand and see what the Lord will do".
Again, welcome and you are in our prayers.
Ray
Re: need prayers for my wife she is blinded to the truths of thi
Scott,
I have prayed for you. I also echo what Lissa and the other Ray say. What God has shown me over the past several months, (while I wait for my wife to accept PM and for other wives to come) is that we men must prepare ourselves for that day. Just as Lissa and Ray said, this involves us becoming Christ-like. It is not until God believes we are ready that He will truly send other wives to us. Also, as Joyce Meyer says, 'hurting people hurt people'. Pray and minister to the issues that God reveals to be at the root of the marriage problems. Once they are dealt with, you will both be ready for PM. Until then stay connected to the people here and those who God connects you to. This will help in the long and short run.
Be blessed,''
Dr. Ray
Scott,
I have prayed for you. I also echo what Lissa and the other Ray say. What God has shown me over the past several months, (while I wait for my wife to accept PM and for other wives to come) is that we men must prepare ourselves for that day. Just as Lissa and Ray said, this involves us becoming Christ-like. It is not until God believes we are ready that He will truly send other wives to us. Also, as Joyce Meyer says, 'hurting people hurt people'. Pray and minister to the issues that God reveals to be at the root of the marriage problems. Once they are dealt with, you will both be ready for PM. Until then stay connected to the people here and those who God connects you to. This will help in the long and short run.
Be blessed,''
Dr. Ray