Legal issues with ex-husband

[kaceym84]

I've been courting a man for several months now. He has been married for 20 years to a wonderful women. I adore both of them and hope to someday become part of their family.
I'm a divorced mother of two. My family and ex has since found out about my relationship with the family and has done everything they possibly could think of to keep my children away from me including having me locked up in a mental hospital because of it. During my hospital stay, my ex took sole physical custody of my children. I see them on the weekends and during the summer.
The family I am dating live a couple hours away from me. My ex is trying to get it so I cannot leave the county I live in with my kids. I don't have a lot of money but I do have a lawyer through legal aid helping me out. I just don't know what to do about it. I want to someday build a life with them but I can't if I have to give up my children in the process. I'm being completely bullied by my ex about it and I don't feel like I have anything to be ashamed of.
Does anyone have any advice?

 

[Mark C]

This is indeed a difficult situation, but sadly it is not an unusual one. Satan hates God's Word, and seems to be particularly hateful of things where he has previously been able to practice great deception.

The best advice, in this area as in so many others, still remains to pray, and to lean on Him rather than our own understanding.

You are in our prayers,

Mark

 

[Tlaloc]

That's brutal, and there is very little you can do about the legal problems without taking drastic measures. Crossing boarders is a terrifyingly easy way to get away with the kids, (terrifying, because anyone can do it) but you need a work visa and some citizenship potential and that is difficult, it seems like X is trying to cut that access as much as possible. Realistically you are going to have to fight it out the legal way using legal aid. Avoiding polygamy as a word and stressing that what you have is a close relationship or close friendship should help because he who you want to be with is no doubt an upstanding person who no rational person could object to you being friends with.

Hopefully there is someone here who can give more solid legal advice, I'll certainly give you my prayers. It's always nasty when a vindictive X tries to seize control of the kids...

 

[sweetlissa]

This is a place where I have no practical input. I am so sorry for your pain. I will keep you in prayer and hope that you will continue to share with us so we can watch you win the victory. God does have a plan for you and I just know that it will be better than you can even imagine.

You are loved.

SweetLissa

 

[jay c]

Stanley Shepp fought a long court battle in a similar situation a few years ago. When his polygamous inclinations came out, his wife divorced him, his step-daughter accused him of abuse, and he was denied the right to discuss his religious views with his own daughter. The major difference in your case is that you would actually do something that your ex and the legal system believes could harm your children, namely engage in a polygamous relationship, instead of just talking about it. His case still might help yours, though. Make sure your lawyer is aware of it and contacts Shepp's.

Interview with Stanley Shepp

 

[Doc]

My response would be more of a practical nature....does the family you are considering have the ability to move closer to you?

Thought number two: If the family you are seeing is serious about the relationship with you, would they consider a 'paper' divorce of the first wife, and then a 'legal' (at least recognized by the state) marriage to you by the husband? I personally don't think that the state has any right to determine who is married or not, but in order to deal with the legal complications of this, that might be a solution.

Please also remember I am not a lawyer...just a preacher

Blessings,