Hello everyone. After much thought I decided to post on this website because I'm struggling very much. I figure I should get to the point...my husband constantly talks about having a sister wife. I want to apologize ahead of time as I know my thoughts will be all over over the place. I have to say I go back and fourth on wanting a sister wife while I truly don't know if I want a sister wife I know my husband does so I'm willing to do that for him. My husband knows this and when I try to bring up my concerns or why I'm worried he gets mad and says things like "that's not for you to worry about" or "you have to do what I say because I'm the man". While I do like the old fashion male and female roles I hate that I can't even talk to him about this without him getting mad even if I just want an honest open conversation. Early on in our marriage he slept with another woman even though she was already married. He tried to use the excuse of plural marriage He tried to tell me it was fine that he was sleeping with another mans wife because they were "spiritually married". I told him it wasn't right and he finally stopped this adulterous relationship when I threatened to leave him. My husband has looked on different websites for other women to be in a plural marriage with he was messaging one woman and I found out they "sexted" each other. I was very upset and he promised not to do it again. My husband has to mention plural marriage in everything we talk about. For example an old friend reached out to me on Facebook and the first thing he asked was " Do you think she would be into plural marriage?" or he could see a picture of a woman and say "I bet she would be into plural marriage". The part that breaks my heart the most is that I'm due soon with our baby and he talks more about getting a sister wife than our new baby. I think we need to focus on our new baby right now not bringing in another woman.
I do want to say my husband is really really amazing and wonderful! He loves me very much and is so so good to me in so many ways. I love him more than anything and I'm happy with him I do not want to leave him or anything like that, but I don't know if he realizes how much it hurts me. I feel in my heart he is not truly happy with me. How can I bring up my concerns to my husband without causing a fight? Does anyone have any advice?
Thank you and I apologize for my jumbled up rant!
I do want to say my husband is really really amazing and wonderful! He loves me very much and is so so good to me in so many ways. I love him more than anything and I'm happy with him I do not want to leave him or anything like that, but I don't know if he realizes how much it hurts me. I feel in my heart he is not truly happy with me. How can I bring up my concerns to my husband without causing a fight? Does anyone have any advice?
Thank you and I apologize for my jumbled up rant!