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How to approach my wife with this subject

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Well I've been married for about 6 years now to a wonderful woman, and I love her deeply, but the Biblical Plural Marriage concept is ever present in my mind and heart... How can I approach my wife without hurting her/making her feel inadequate? How can we deal with issues such as jealousy?

Thanks!
 
Take it very, very, very slow!

If there is fear in your heart regarding her response, then may I recommend that you work at improving your current relationship? This is not a judgement or condemnation, just speaking from personal experience.

God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind. If we are experiencing fear in a given situation, especially as it relates to a biblical truth, then fear should serve as a warning light that something is out of balance.

Prayer makes a big difference. You may be surprised that after prayer, one day, just 'out of the blue', she may bring the topic up herself. It has happened more than once to people here on this very forum.

In the meantime, ask God to show you how you can be the love of God manifest in your spouse's life.

Blessings to you,

Doc
 
I prayed for a year or actually about a year and a half to God asking him to reveal it to her when He thought appropriate.

He also told me that I needed to get MY house in order if I wanted to be considered a good husband to the one I had now, let alone any more.

I started humbling myself and making changes in my own life, and then the day arrived when my wife came to me asking where multiple wives went wrong. We prayed immediately and began to go through it all together, we went to a retreat and here we are now.

Biblical Families is awesome folk, we have made great friends and had some really great laughs. Enjoy the ride. And be patient.
 
It's not so much fear as there have been a lot of guys that we are indirectly associated with who have run out on their wives lately... a lot of messy divorces and pain and hurt being caused. The frequency of these train-smashed relationships has generated a feeling ( not limited to my wife, but also my own feeling ) of, "those cheating ba$t@rds". ( pardon my french ).

So, I suppose if there is any trepidation, it can be associated with that. The other bit of uncertainty lies with me. I am very new to this idea. I don't even know where to begin when thinking about it myself.

With all things, I desire to talk with my wife on this subject in a loving and wise manner. If there are any common pitfalls, or mistakes in approach, I would like to avoid doing any damage and get it right the first time, rather than have to try to fix a really big and potentially avoidable mess. It wouldn't be so great to make a blunder of things at the start, and only be able to hopefully salvage the situation later, especially since it can take a good deal of time for people to work through their hurt and emotional baggage.

So:

Common Pitfalls to avoid?
Good talking points?
Any other advice?

Thanks,
Jacob
 
Have you brought up the concept with her?
 
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