Yes
You asked.
To start, a man does not become head of a household just because he thinks he's entitled to that role.
First he has to
be a man. That is something he needs to be as a prerequisite to claiming the mantle of leadership or headship over a house or family.
He must be able to provide for himself, defend himself, and then carry himself in such a manner that no one doubts his abilities, comittment, moral compass, or fortitude.
Then it becomes a simple matter for woman and children to recognize him as their head or leader because it's
obvious that this is what he is.
The current Dalai Lama once said, "You are as humble as you say you are".
My variation on this is that
if you have to tell me that you're a man then you have told me that you are not.
I once thanked someone for telling me that they were a man because otherwise I would have never known.
Too many males (not men) run around bleating and whining about how Scripture says they should be in charge and then complain that their women and children won't recognize this.
"Waaaah, I'm gonna tell mom on you if you don't do what I say! Waaaaah!"
I've been married to my husband for fourteen years and in all that time how many times has he ever told me or anyone else that he is a man, he's the head of this family, or anything remotely similar? Not once. He doesn't need to. It is abundantly obvious.
Yes, Scripture says much about being a man and being head of the house and the mistake too many people make is in thinking this is an
entitlement. It is not.
It is an
expectation.
God has given you and everyone else legions of examples of manhood. We all know what real men look like. We know it when we see them.
Elijah, Isaiah, David, Samson, Moses, Solomon, Peter, Paul, James, Matthew, and Jesus and more are all facets on the same diamond of God's expectation of men. And God expects
much of you.
It's easy to be a good wife and mother to such a man. It's easy to follow such a man when you have no doubt in his wisdom or leadership.
You guys have it much harder than women do because so much of God's Word is wrapped around what He expects of you.
God expects you to be a man. But He cannot give you headship or leadership in your house. He cannot give you respect among other men.
This is something you must man-up and take for yourself.
Being a man is something you must be regardless if you die single. It is God's expectation of you.
