Cooking Arrangements

[The Protector]

I'm wondering how you guys do your cooking arrangements. Do you have a wife in charge on a particular night and the others and children help out? Do you switch the nights of who is in charge? Do you have the wife that loves cooking always in charge and then the other wife is in charge of a different area?

 

[Isabella]

Isn't that something everyone should work out amongst themselves? I don't think it is the best idea to impose anything because natural talent and inclination are far more important when it comes to who does what and when.

B

 

[eternitee]

Isabella is correct - just work it out.

That said I took your question to be an interest in what arrangements work for different families.

My SW typically figures out a menu. She asks what I would like to cook. She then figures out a rough plan of what will be eaten on what day - not that it is set in stone. Grocery shoppng depends on what we need and where it makes sense to go to get it. She does the majority of food shopping with the kids helping out, and I tend to end up doing the "bits and pieces" from odd stores type shopping. Is this a formal arrangement? No - it is just the way it naturally seems to land. Is it open to change any time someone is unhappy with their role or distribution - of course it is

I know some families where the wife cooks for everybody on the night she is with the husband. I know some families where one wife does ALL the cooking (although that is rare). It is just something that gets worked out as time progresses.

 

[The Protector]

Who said anything about imposing? Just looking for some ideas.

I think this is one of the best parts about pm, being able to spread things around by who likes to do what. It might happen that the other person likes to do something you don't, so you let them do it. Even if you disliked all the same things, it's still so much better to be able to hang out and talk while doing them. Then the things you don't like get done twice as fast!

 

[Gillfam]

Well we just kind of go with who ever starts to cook cooks unless one wife has a specialty and she wants to make it that night. If they are both tired from working they will usually call me and I will cook so there is not set schedule when it comes to cooking or cleaning. It's pretty much who ever does it does it and every one else joins in if there is the need for help. My wives are very vocal,lol. They will say something quick if they need help.

 

[cookfamily]

I think most nights we would agree with the GillFam. Crystal (wife of 30 years) noramlly cooks as she enjoys it more. On the nights she is tired or busy I step in. It's great working this way.

We do the same things with other chores as well. Whenever one is unable or unwilling the other is there to pick up the slack without hardly even having to ask! We each have our different "parts of the body" that we enjoy serving in, yet at the same time we gladly pitch in for the other.

Now dishes .... those may be a different story! J/K!