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Coming back under my own name?

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Bartato

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Hi everyone. I think I'd like to quit posting under the name Bartato and create a new account with my name (first or middle, not whole).

There are a few reasons.
1. I'm getting a bit bolder.
2. Bartato seems like a stupid name.
3. If I get my wife to join the site, I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about her reading all my "Bartato" comments. Its not that they are terrible, but when I started posting under Bartato, I was assuming anonymity.
4. As I've mentioned previously that there is a woman, a dear friend of ours that I am interested in. If somehow, I ever get her on this site, I'm also a bit sensitive about her reading my Bartato comments.

Any thoughts? Thanks
 
The site doesn’t like multiple accounts, but under the circumstances stated I would think that they would understand.
 
meister said:
change your name then
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If he simply changed his name, his old comments would show up under his actual name.
That is what he is trying to avoid.
 
Bartato said:
2. Bartato seems like a stupid name.
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Please just change it to Bar Potato, because that's what my mind translates it to every time I see it.

;)

Bartato said:
3. If I get my wife to join the site, I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about her reading all my "Bartato" comments. Its not that they are terrible, but when I started posting under Bartato, I was assuming anonymity.
4. As I've mentioned previously that there is a woman, a dear friend of ours that I am interested in. If somehow, I ever get her on this site, I'm also a bit sensitive about her reading my Bartato comments.
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Just my two cents -- and I know I don't represent the Biblical Families mainstream, but I'm a firm advocate for minimizing secrets, especially with spouses. Secrets are antithetical to intimacy. Seek those with whom you can be transparent. Otherwise, when you start up a new profile, it will be very difficult to avoid being The Pretender with every woman in your life, not to mention the fact that you're then expecting the rest of us to keep straight who you were as Bar Potato and who you supposedly are as Mr. Slick.

Embrace your warts.
 
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Bartato said:
Hi everyone. I think I'd like to quit posting under the name Bartato and create a new account with my name (first or middle, not whole).

There are a few reasons.
1. I'm getting a bit bolder.
2. Bartato seems like a stupid name.
3. If I get my wife to join the site, I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about her reading all my "Bartato" comments. Its not that they are terrible, but when I started posting under Bartato, I was assuming anonymity.
4. As I've mentioned previously that there is a woman, a dear friend of ours that I am interested in. If somehow, I ever get her on this site, I'm also a bit sensitive about her reading my Bartato comments.

Any thoughts? Thanks
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Don’t do it. It won’t work anyway. The women will know somehow and you’ll come off as sneaky. Roar like a lion and the jackals be damned.

That being said, I’m raging hypocrite. I’ve changed my name here twice. I started off as Zephyr, changed it to my real name to make a statement but then a video I did was drawing some liberals here secretly who then went back to another forum and mostly mocked us. They’re rhetoric was just angry enough though that I didn’t want my last name out there anymore.

@FollowingHim cam change your screen name pretty easily, or maybe you can change it a limited number of times now. Just do that for the continuity of conversation if nothing else.
 
Bartato said:
Hi everyone. I think I'd like to quit posting under the name Bartato and create a new account with my name (first or middle, not whole).

There are a few reasons.
1. I'm getting a bit bolder.
2. Bartato seems like a stupid name.
3. If I get my wife to join the site, I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about her reading all my "Bartato" comments. Its not that they are terrible, but when I started posting under Bartato, I was assuming anonymity.
4. As I've mentioned previously that there is a woman, a dear friend of ours that I am interested in. If somehow, I ever get her on this site, I'm also a bit sensitive about her reading my Bartato comments.

Any thoughts? Thanks
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Truth is truth. Stand boldly. @The Revolting Man is right.

Allow yourself the freedom to grow and develop as you learn.... guessing I might bit agree with my early posts and I started with an annonymous name, but when some in my fellowship figured it out I said 'torpedoes be damned, i'm using my real name and they can just cine get me.'

Moat quietly left our fellowship and the rest us history. Now, any single woman close to me knows exactly where I stand and can read my info here or my blog or books and they can choose association. I don't need them...
 
Bartato said:
The real name is Brian, but I guess I'll just keep my "Bartato" for now.
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To help protect my wives, Samuel kindly changed my profile name a while back. I initially used my real name but that made life more difficult. My advice would be to consider possible difficulties your wife/wives will likely encounter from the haters and the heartache they will experience. Shalom brother.
 
As @frederick said, there is value in anonymity to the general public, and you never know when it might be useful. Some idiots post their photographs here, which ruins that, but most people are more sensible. :) Of course, if you don't like "Bartato" we could certainly change it to "Bar potato" for you.

But as @Keith Martin, @The Revolting Man and @PeteR said, you should have honesty within the family. Let your wife read your posts and have whatever discussions happen.
 
FollowingHim said:
.....there is value in anonymity to the general public, and you never know when it might be useful. Some idiots post their photographs here, which ruins that, but most people are more sensible. :)
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I like how this idiot identifies himself as such....and I like seeing idiots faces here!!
The Revolting Man said:
Don’t do it. It won’t work anyway. The women will know somehow and you’ll come off as sneaky. Roar like a lion and the jackals be damned
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I like the bravery of people who do put their faces out there and defy the blasted jackals!!!

Since I'd rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I'm not... I might have to consider membership in the roaringidiotsthumbnosesatjackals club! :-)
 
I just changed my signature thingie to reflect my membership status.
 
Joleneakamama said:
I might have to consider membership in the roaringidiotsthumbnosesatjackals club
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I didn’t know that one had the option of joining, I just assumed that the non members voted you into the club.

But yeah, posting your picture is definitely a declaration of membership.

I may have to settle for the mumblingidiotsthumbnosesatjackals club.
 
Bartato said:
I'm getting a bit bolder
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This is good imo. It just goes with a more solid understanding of the morality of polygyny.
Bartato said:
If I get my wife to join the site, I'm not necessarily enthusiastic about her reading all my "Bartato" comments. Its not that they are terrible, but when I started posting under Bartato, I was assuming anonymity.
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I doubt christians are really very different when they are ....incognito...but perhaps less deliberate?
Bartato said:
As I've mentioned previously that there is a woman, a dear friend of ours that I am interested in. If somehow, I ever get her on this site, I'm also a bit sensitive about her reading my Bartato comments.
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I understand in a way the sensitivity, because where interest already lies you feel you have something to lose. Friendship even. I have been here lotsa years! Sometimes it's even fun for me to revisit old threads... like this blast from the past!

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I was going to follow this change in topic from this thread, but decided the topic might warrant a new thread. Then, you take a woman and ask her to marry a man who already has a wife??? But would she buy a car nobody else drives? To use your analogy about cars, most women have been taught...
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