My only word of caution to you, and to all of us in general, is to make sure we are focused on growing in our knowledge and exercise of the grace of God. As we go about seeking to share Christ with others and serving others God will providentially handle the rest.
I've seen more men than I care to see (and I'm not saying this is you but just offering general teaching for this) latch on to this idea of seeking a wife and it consumes them and they forget about balance in their life. I've seen men become so enamored with the goal of having a wife that they discard the work and goal of serving people in Christ. I've seen way too many run, jump, and dive into this quest with full throttle down seeking to gain a wife. In many of these cases their rush and impatience led to dismay, trouble, and disharmony among their lives.
A wise ole man once said (and I hope and pray this is not too crass for a public forum): "if you let the small head overtake the larger head you can expect dread." Part of acting like a real man, something Christ was and something Paul commanded the men in Corinth to be (1 Cor. 16:13), is being in control of ourselves. Paul even once said, "I will not let anything/anyone master me." In Romans he said: "For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace" (6:14). Any desire to dominates us, controls us, and drives us instead of being in control of ourselves by the power of the Spirit is a sin because we are out of control, out of order.
Over the years I have seen it too often. Men who are consumed and driven by sexual desire instead of a cool headed missional desire wind up taking a woman unto themselves with haste before the woman is truly on board with the man's purpose and mission in life. The man sets the tone for the rest of the family. If he is not truly sold out to the Great Commission of Christ then his mate will not be either, and then everyone is off track and without the right perspective.
Our focus as believers in the Lord must be first to share the highest truth to as many people as we can, either through word or through physical service, which is Christ's unconditional love which liberates from sin. As we share, either in word or deed, God will by his sovereign hand guide all things pertaining to the family.
Matthew 6:33 says it best: "Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things [life's essentials] will be given to you." If you will become consumed in the work of Christian service then Christ will be consumed in meeting what you need to fulfill his plan and work for you.
Psalm 37:3-5 applies: "Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this." Proverbs 16:3 "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed."
The desire for a wife is a good thing. But I always like to test a man's heart to see what is he more interested in. Is the heart more eager to fulfill the sexual drive or does the drive to see people come to know Christ and to be in a right relationship with him have an equal or higher drive in the man? Both desires are good, but what I find is that some men (not saying you as I'm just giving a general guide here) will have a deeper urge to fulfill their sexual drive that is higher and more urgent than their desire to see people saved, coming to know Christ, and living in a right relationship with Christ. When that is discovered it is clear that a man is out of balance.
What I wish would happen, at the least, is to see a new generation of men stand up who are as passionate about seeing men and women born again, and then in service for Christ as they are about having a sexual desire fulfilled. We could experience a true revival across this blessed nation if men would seek the heart of the Savior to such a degree that at least the two desires were on equal standing. What if a man were thinking about getting people into the kingdom and in right relationship with the Lord as often as they think about sex each minute or within each day? What if the thoughts were equal? What if a man's first thought when he saw any person, male or female, was: "I wonder if they know the Lord and if they will be with me in heaven?"
Just some food for thought and something to consider. And, no, I don't always live up to that standard myself but I'm certainly pursuing it more and more with each day I live. Making a lady a part of my physical family is good. But bringing someone into the eternal family takes priority, and from what I have seen in the past, those men who make their first order of business the work of the gospel God will normally bring to them a good woman to help them fulfill this passion. In other words: "If you Fulfill the Major Mission You'll Also Accomplish the Other Mission in the Process."
So, yes, Lightening Can Strike Twice, and for those out laboring in the field where the harvest is plentiful for souls, they are more likely to be caught by the lightening (Luke 10:2). But, as our Lord so well said, the laborers then, and even today, are still so few. My prayer is that more and more men will get as excited about winning people to Christ and making disciples as they do about mating with a woman. If we could get the two at least on the same level with one another we could turn the nation upside down for the name of Christ and along the way we'd have all of our other needs met along the way.
