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At the end of my rope!

Revgill87123

Revgill87123

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So for those of you who don't know we had a fire at our house friday before last. We had no where to turn or go so the state called the ONE family shelter for us and they didn't want 7 people so the state instead of making any more calls took custody of our children. We now have to play nice with these people who have our kids. We (Becky and my self) are on the streets cause we don't have a drug or alcohol problem no one will shelter us. You guys please pray that I don't lose my cool. I mean I really want to hurt these people and it seems like there is no hope coming. I know God has a plan, but what is it? Yall just please pray for us in general.
 
Hi Rev. Gill
I am so sorry ! I am praying for you and I'm going to have my church pray for you, too. God has a solution and I know He will reveal it to you. Contact the Salvation Army (and possibly any Vineyard churches in that area. Some of them have ministries aimed at helping people who are homeless). Don't give up, keep the Faith and stay as strong as you can. God will not fail you !
Blessings,
Fairlight
 
Oh my...mercy.

RevGill, I have just prayed for you and your whole family.

Please email me if you like or think there is some other way we can be of help to you here from the staff.

keith@biblicalfamilies.org or the staff@biblicalfamilies.org

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. :(
 
My family has just prayed for you and your family and we will continue to do so until your family is together again. It's so hard to think clearly in times like this. Stay strong in the Lord. We prayed that God will protect your children in every way and give you guidance and your wife peace.
 
OH NO!! Rev our prayers are with you and Becky and the children! Please let us know how you are whenever you can!

We will pray for a solution to make itself present and for your family to be reunited. I am really disappointed that the red cross did not attempt to keep you all together.
 
We are still not together as a family. We will be going to court probably in the next week too see about getting the kids back, but with no where to go it's going to be just a court hearing about keeping our kids. None of my family will even helpby taking in my kids they say we have made our own bed by having so many kids. I have to admit I am feeling kind of hopeless. I have been suspended from my job pending out come of us getting our kids back cause he has too many illegals there and doesn't want any thing having to do with the law. With no where to stay we can't find new jobs. The Salvation Army out here isn't a shelter just a thrift shop. I wouldn't care so much if my wife had some where to go. I can be on the streets I did it when I left home at 13. I was on the streets. The only shelter that will let her stay only gave us 3 days. 3 Days isn't enough time. If it was more like two weeks I don't care how I would manage but I would have enough to get another place. I just am loosing hope of seeing my kids any time soon. we don't even have the money to go see our kids cause cps put them in another town one town over but it's like 10$ a peice for the train. I have a feeling that this is a battle I am going to lose.
 
I am so sorry to hear this, do you have any friends in the area? I can't believe a government agency would take children away from parents due to something out of their control. I am appalled and I am thinking of you and your family.
 
Unfortunately the friends we thought we had are no where around. It is amazing when some thing like this hits you a lot of people you helped turn on you. The cps people here are so intent on keeping our kids it is unreal. We got a report back from them saying that we are unfit to be parents cause we can not provide our children to have a roof over their heads. So now we have to go to court. Honestly though what can I say to that? As of right now we really don't have a place to call home. So they are probably going to be gone like cps said for 6 months to a year cause we have no friends or family who will take in the kids. Once we go to court and we don't have a home for them it's an auto-matic 6mos to a year even if you find a place. It just really bad cause untill we have some kind of roof over our heads we can't even get to visit with our children.
 
Gil ...

Here it is the 22nd, and perhaps too late to do anything about things. But we just found this thread. Missed it when it happened. If you and your family have a place to go will they give 'em back, or is it too late? What's the current status?
 
Revgill,

Is there a way you could come to the east coast? If so I might be able to get you a temporary place to live here. What would it take to get this to happen?

Money for a plane ticket? Funds for a train ticket? Would this help you then? Could we get your kids back then if you moved out here and got job etc? Could then the kids be brought back here with you?

Allen
 
They are willing to place our kids with some one if we are ok with it. Then after we get a place we can get them back. We have had to go through so much just too see them. The judged ordered the CYFD people too give us visitation, but they told me today that they can't find a center for us too visit our kids. I am not sure of what to do. We can't get our kids to family cause every one is saying that they don't want them. I have court in two months and unless some one else has them we can't move cause then it is considered abandonement and we will lose custody any ways. When we get our kids back though we are out of this state. I have never had this many problems. I have never gone 4 days with out eating just simply cause I'd rather be looking for work then waiting hours to go eat. At least the library is free to use the internet. Or I wouldn't have no one to talk too.
 
Thanks for the post and prayers on our thread Seth and way to offer to lend a helping hand, we have been praying about Revgill87123 situation as well.
 
Revgill87123 said:
They are willing to place our kids with some one if we are ok with it. Then after we get a place we can get them back. We have had to go through so much just too see them. The judged ordered the CYFD people too give us visitation, but they told me today that they can't find a center for us too visit our kids. I am not sure of what to do. We can't get our kids to family cause every one is saying that they don't want them. I have court in two months and unless some one else has them we can't move cause then it is considered abandonement and we will lose custody any ways. When we get our kids back though we are out of this state. I have never had this many problems. I have never gone 4 days with out eating just simply cause I'd rather be looking for work then waiting hours to go eat. At least the library is free to use the internet. Or I wouldn't have no one to talk too.
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I am sorry I don't understand, why do you need a centre to visit your children? Surely you can just take them somewhere and take them back. If your children are in temporary care due to homelessness I don't understand why they are restricting your access to them? I admit I know nothing about the town you live in but don't they have any hostal accommodation or anything to help you get on your feet? If someone has offered you a home can't you present this to the state and tell them you have a home with whoever?

This sounds unreasonable, my mother is a child protection officer and I can't imagine them not allowing you to take the children out of care if you can provide them with somewhere to live.

What do you need?

Bels
 
Well I talked to the lady today from cyfd she is our new case worker. Aparently when your kids first get taken away they have to give you supervised untill 2months later when you take their psych test and they say you are not a threat. Not so much too the children, but more so the case worker and foster parents (More so with me being an ex-profighter). Then once they establish you are sane enough then you get unsupervised visits. The new case worker seems sincere that she wants us to get our kids back in two months or less. Although in my mind she is still on the side of the enemy (so to speak). She seems like she really wants to help us get the help we need for help with a new home and work so we can get our kids back. She said they see no signs of abuse(Duh!) The only thing was they were a little behind on their reading. Their math how ever they are all ahead of their grades. She only said that the one thing I do wrong is spoiling my children cause since they aren't getting spoiled like I do for them my littlest daughter is given'm temper tanterims. What can I say? I can't say no to none of my babies if I don't see that's it's wrong or going to put them in danger. Our kids only stay little for a short time. Why not give them the best childhood you possibly can!
 
They state that they are waiting for aproval for billing to use the cyfd in Abq cause they are in the next town over. Also transportation for all of the kids. We should be seeing them by saturday of next week. It will be the first time in over a month. What really sucks is my twins Birthday was yesterday and we couldn't even call them.

Isabella said:
Revgill87123 said:
They are willing to place our kids with some one if we are ok with it. Then after we get a place we can get them back. We have had to go through so much just too see them. The judged ordered the CYFD people too give us visitation, but they told me today that they can't find a center for us too visit our kids. I am not sure of what to do. We can't get our kids to family cause every one is saying that they don't want them. I have court in two months and unless some one else has them we can't move cause then it is considered abandonement and we will lose custody any ways. When we get our kids back though we are out of this state. I have never had this many problems. I have never gone 4 days with out eating just simply cause I'd rather be looking for work then waiting hours to go eat. At least the library is free to use the internet. Or I wouldn't have no one to talk too.
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I am sorry I don't understand, why do you need a centre to visit your children? Surely you can just take them somewhere and take them back. If your children are in temporary care due to homelessness I don't understand why they are restricting your access to them? I admit I know nothing about the town you live in but don't they have any hostal accommodation or anything to help you get on your feet? If someone has offered you a home can't you present this to the state and tell them you have a home with whoever?

This sounds unreasonable, my mother is a child protection officer and I can't imagine them not allowing you to take the children out of care if you can provide them with somewhere to live.

What do you need?

Bels
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Also my phone is back on 505-348-6065 if any one has any questions and I don't answer on here. I use the library comp so can't get on every day.
 
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