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An Issue of Character and Plural-minded Men

Doc

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Character is defined as strength of moral fiber. A.W. Tozer described character as “the excellence of moral beings.” As the excellence of gold is its purity and the excellence of art is its beauty, so the excellence of man is his character. Persons of character are noted for their honesty, ethics, and charity. Descriptions such as “man of principle” and “woman of integrity” are assertions of character. A lack of character is moral deficiency, and persons lacking character tend to behave dishonestly, unethically, and uncharitably.

A person’s character is the sum of his or her disposition, thoughts, intentions, desires, and actions. It is good to remember that character is gauged by general tendencies, not on the basis of a few isolated actions. We must look at the whole life. For example, King David was a man of good character (1 Samuel 13:14) although he sinned on occasion (2 Samuel 11). And although King Ahab may have acted nobly once (1 Kings 22:35), he was still a man of overall bad character (1 Kings 16:33). Several people in the Bible are described as having noble character: Ruth (Ruth 3:11), Hanani (Nehemiah 7:2), David (Psalm 78:72), and Job (Job 2:3). These individuals’ lives were distinguished by persistent moral virtue.

Character is influenced and developed by our choices. Daniel “resolved not to defile himself” in Babylon (Daniel 1:8), and that godly choice was an important step in formulating an unassailable integrity in the young man’s life. Character, in turn, influences our choices. “The integrity of the upright guides them” (Proverbs 11:3a). Character will help us weather the storms of life and keep us from sin (Proverbs 10:9a).

It is the Lord’s purpose to develop character within us. “The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but the LORD tests the heart” (Proverbs 17:3). Godly character is the result of the Holy Spirit’s work of sanctification. Character in the believer is a consistent manifestation of Jesus in his life. It is the purity of heart that God gives becoming purity in action. God sometimes uses trials to strengthen character: “we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope” (Romans 5:3-4). The Lord is pleased when His children grow in character. “You test the heart and are pleased with integrity” (1 Chronicles 29:17; see also Psalm 15:1-2).

We can develop character by controlling our thoughts (Philippians 4:8), practicing Christian virtues (2 Peter 1:5-6), guarding our hearts (Proverbs 4:23; Matthew 15:18-20), and keeping good company (1 Corinthians 15:33). Men and women of character will set a good example for others to follow, and their godly reputation will be evident to all (Titus 2:7-8).

In his first letter to the Corinthians, the apostle Paul wrote of the false teachers who had come into the church at Corinth teaching that the resurrection of Jesus Christ wasn’t true. These people considered only their physical existence and denied life after death or the resurrection (1 Corinthians 15:32). As a result, their moral outlook on life influenced the rest of the Corinthian believers.

Paul is telling us that in associating with false teachers, we will be adversely influenced by them. The truth is that false teachings do not lead to godly holiness. As such, it is critical that we are careful who we form relationships with, especially those outside the church because unbelievers can cause even the strongest Christians to waver in their faith and adversely affect their walk with Christ and their witness to the world. This is why Paul tells us “do not be misled.”

Actually, this was the second time Paul warned the Corinthians not to be deceived (1 Corinthians 6:9). He cautioned them not to take up the lifestyles of corrupt people—those who will not inherit the kingdom of God. Paul knew how easy it is for people to be influenced by such adverse teachings. If not checked at the very beginning, they could begin to adopt such perverted ideas and behaviors as normal. For this reason, Paul quotes a proverb by the Greek poet Menander: “Bad company corrupts good character.” No doubt this proverb was well known among Greeks of this time.

The point Paul makes here is pertinent to all people in all ages. When we associate with or take delight in the company of people with worldly morals, we run the risk of mimicking their behaviors, their language, and their habits. Before long we are no longer of Christ, but of the world with its denial of absolute authority, its rejection of the Bible as the Word of God, and its ideology of relative morality. This is especially pertinent to young people who are generally so easily influenced by their peers. Young people are desperate for the approval of others. So motivated are they by the need for acceptance that godly wisdom in decision-making can go out the window in the face of peer pressure. Therefore, it is crucial for parents of young teens especially to be on guard against the influence of bad company.

So, what are we to do? Paul provides us the answer at the very end of chapter 15: “Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain” (1 Corinthians 15:58). As parents, we stand firm against ungodly influences that may corrupt our children. As Christians, we stand firm against those who would corrupt our walk with Christ. As church members, we stand firm against false teaching and watered-down gospel presentations that lead others stray. In all things, we are “self controlled and alert because our “enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8).
 
Hey Doc,

Yes I read it and agree with you. I think there is an issue to consider. Any sphere that is perceived to be a place for power will often draw in people who have bad character as those with bad character are often those who want power for the wrong reasons. Many people go into various fields of life in order to run over people and to puff themselves up as they run others down.

Patriarchy will be a sphere that attracts many corrupt men with bad character because they see it as a sphere to exercise brute power over not just one woman but more and the more they have the more they feel good about themselves. Instead of truly feeling the weight and responsibility of being a shepherd and a head that bears the burden of responsibility over the lives of those under their care they see it as a way to exalt themselves in status.

Character is fundamentally a prior issue to all things, even to a proper understanding of the Bible. Many sins and theological errors in reading the Bible arise due to people reading the Bible with a slanted or corrupt character trait that leads them to interpret texts in a certain way that aligns with their own character flaw. They will redefine terms in the Bible to make it suitable to their own character instead of being tough enough to let the Word redefine them and their character.

However, meek men or humble men (or people in general), with good character are those that realize the seriousness and solemness and the responsibility and weight that comes with position, especially such as with a headship position. Men who lack self-control and who are young, immature, and still infants race towards anything that they think gives them power, prestige, and glory and that is often seen in men rushing into plural unions. It is a fruit of the Spirit issue or to state it another way it is a failure of character.

We can even see this in the issue of Christ who is the exact image of God. Hebrews 1:3 uses the term: χαρακτήρ charaktēr. The ESV translates the verse this way: "He [Jesus Christ] is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high."

To have good character is to reflect the image of Christ who is God in the flesh. The incarnate Lord expresses to us through his flesh the exact character of the unseen Spirit God.
 
Gentlemen,
I concur and observe that character building is one of the reasons God leaves us here in this sin cursed world after we become believers. To build character in the image of our Lord that we will possess throught eternity. Guess I'd better get to work on it. :oops: :)
 
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