Computers, smartphones, Internet accounts?

[Sam Speaks]

Just another question about practical matters from a bachelor here. I suppose it's kind of a continuation of the question I asked about shared vs separate bank accounts some time back, but these new questions just occurred to me recently:

Should man and wife share their smartphone/laptop/desktop passwords?

Should they log in as the same user or separate users on desktop?

What about email, Amazon, social media passwords? Should they just have a single combined account?

What if another wife comes onboard, does that change anything?

In a monogamy-idealist context it would make sense for husband and wife to both be able to view the other's text/DM history to hold each other accountable for cheating, but in a polygyny/patriarchal context, should the accountability only be unilateral?

 

[steve]

Pretty much a hard no.

in a polygyny/patriarchal context, should the accountability only be unilateral?

Yes

to hold each other accountable for cheating,

The only cheating that a male can do is cheating another man with his woman.

 

[IndianaLife]

Should man and wife share their smartphone/laptop/desktop passwords?

No. If my wife needs my password to trust me, then she will never trust me. Never mind the fact I don't trust any device she has to not be compromised, and I am certainly not giving her access to my password manager, especially since she uses the same password everywhere and will open any attachment anyone sends her...

What about email

No. This would violate my current and future NDAs I have.

Amazon

Amazon has built-in methods of sharing your prime and digital libraries with family; why would we share one account?

it would make sense for husband and wife to both be able to view the other's text/DM history to hold each other accountable for cheating

That doesn't make sense at all. If you can't trust your spouse, why are you with them?

 

[steve]

That doesn't make sense at all. If you can't trust your spouse, why are you with them?

Emotional adultery is a thing that isn’t recognized very often.
I believe that a man should retain the right to check communication, even if he never does it.

 

[julieb]

This is a subject that really is for each family to figure out what works for them. I do agree that the mindset "we share all accounts so nothing will make us stumble" SEEMS good but it is based in distrust which only cracks the door for the Enemy to bring it fully into your minds regarding each other. For us, we have individual accounts, but my husband knows all my information regarding them.

 

[MeganC]

That doesn't make sense at all. If you can't trust your spouse, why are you with them?

Doveryay, no proveryay.

- Russian proverb

(Trust, but verify.)

 

[frederick]

For us, we have individual accounts, but my husband knows all my information regarding them.

Same. And it works well for us.